Weddings are stressful. This much we know to be true. They’re expensive (the average wedding in 2015 cost $32,000); they require SO MUCH planning and someone has an opinion about everything. It’s no wonder some brides quickly transform into bridezillas. But none have taken that title quite so far as Ella. Who is Ella? Allow us to explain.

Attractive irritated woman in rose wreath showing bouquet of flowers

Last week, Ella’s bridesmaid took to Reddit to share her frustrations. She explains: “So I’ve known my friend, who I’ll refer to as Ella, since I was a child as she’s the daughter of family friends but we’ve only become close in the past 2 or 3 years. She recently became engaged, and I readily accepted her offer to be part of her bridal party. Yesterday morning I received an email from Ella. It seemed pretty standard but then when she got into the look she wants for her bridesmaids she wrote “Bridehairthrowaway [the user’s Reddit name], you’ll need to dye your hair for the day, I’ll take you to my hairdresser and cover the cost.”

Naturally, Bridehairthrowaway was taken aback. She is a natural redhead and was told by Ella that “would clash with the wedding colours and that brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids’ appearances.” She goes on to say Ella said her hair is quite “attention-grabbing” and would take away from the group’s cohesiveness.

Wow, we’ve heard of some outrageous asks from brides to their bridal parties, but this one definitely takes the cake. Bridehairthrowaway finished the post by asking if she was being absurd for being offended by this. Our answer: 100 percent no. And it seems as though the rest of the Reddit community feels the same. One commenter wrote, “Yeah, this is on the same level as brides who purposefully choose ugly dresses for their bridesmaids or forbid them from losing weight/looking skinnier than the bride… aka, total ridiculousness! Stand your ground. It’s better to not be a bridesmaid than to be pressured into something you don’t want to do.”

Bridehairthrowaway, we say keep that red hair on full display!

What’s the craziest request you’ve ever been asked as a bridesmaid? Share with us on Twitter @BritandCo.

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