Like a lot of us, Pretty Little Liars star Shay Mitchell is starting 2019 with a look back at 2018. And while she had a lot of highs, many of which she shared on Instagram, she also had some heartbreaking lows, including a miscarriage.

In her Instagram stories on Tuesday, January 1, Mitchell recapped some of her most memorable moments from the past year: trips to Arizona, Qatar, Shanghai, Vancouver, and Ibiza; the launch of her bag line, Béis; the premiere of her new show, You; an appearance at the 2018 VMAs; a backyard wedding for her best friend; and the births of several other friends’ babies.

It sounds like an amazing year, but as Mitchell shared in one of her final stories, “it didn’t come without some hardships.” Her next post was a picture of a sonogram with a broken-heart emoji.

“We all have to deal with various struggles and challenges in life. And sometimes it’s easier to only showcase the good times on social media, which is what leads many people to criticize it for its lack of authenticity,” she explained.

“Having so many people follow me on Instagram and read my posts is both incredibly humbling and hugely uplifting. The support and affection that so many of you show me lifts me up during even my darkest days, one of which happened last year after I miscarried and lost the child of my hopes and dreams.”

The You actress didn’t go into any further detail, instead choosing to focus on what lies ahead in 2019. “In the spirit of the new year, I think that we need to remember that we are all on this journey together — in good times and in bad — and to remind ourselves that we seldom really know or understand the struggles and hardships that other people are going through,” she wrote. “So, for 2019, let’s all try to be a little more compassionate, empathetic, patient, and thoughtful with each other. This sounds like a great resolution to me. I hope that you agree.”

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