5 Reasons Why It’s Totally Okay to Sometimes Be a “Bad Mom”
There are creative moms who make art out of lunch and take Leibovitz-level photos of their children. And there are powerful moms who rock the #momboss role while ruling the roost at home too. For the rest of us mere mortals, it often seems like there is an imaginary goalpost that moves further into the horizon every. Single. Day. Between spit-ups and soccer practice or baby proofing and bathing yourself, the definition of being a “good” mom is open to interpretation.
1. You need a break. Give yourself a break and say no if you really don’t have the time or energy to take something else on. There will be plenty of chances for you to volunteer, chaperone or carpool in the future. If you don’t have the bandwidth for something at the moment, be honest and pick it up another time.
2. There are only 24 hours in a day. There’s always going to be something else you need to do. Maybe it’s the dishes piling up or the dirty laundry pooling around the floor. Whatever it is, give yourself permission to ignore the things that you don’t have to get done right this minute in favor of keeping your sanity in check.
3. You can enable your kids. Once they’re old enough, give your kids the gift of empowerment. Make it a routine for your kiddos to make their own breakfast before school, pick out their clothes for the day or to take on something else that you would normally do for them. Kids love being in charge of things, so let them lead the charge with self-reliance.
4. It’s normal to get emotional. Feeling stressed? Say so and take a moment to take a deep breath, even if your kids are watching. Your kids will feel stressed, overwhelmed, angry and a whole bunch of other not-so-great emotions over the course of their lives. Show them that it’s normal to have these feelings, and that there are positive ways to work through it.
5. You’re keeping it real. Meet your daily challenges head on and demonstrate how to manage setbacks, bullies and whatever lemons life throws at you. At the end of the day, parenting is about raising little humans to one day be kind, self-reliant and thoughtful bigger humans. Show them how to think critically through issues by letting them see that you are human too.
What are your best “bad mom” moments? Tweet us your tips @BritandCo!
(Photos via Universal Studios Home Entertainment)
Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)