As if we don’t have enough to worry about when it comes to our careers — such as finding your career calling or making a career change while taking in the awesome advice and ignoring the bad career advice — now we apparently need to stress about whether or not to wear our bling to work. Forget about your hard-earned education, and don’t be silly enough to dwell on your years of experience; supposedly what really affects your job is your engagement ring’s ability to create jealously and fuel warped perceptions. At least that’s what one dude is trying to tell women, with advice that really is just plain dumb AF.

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Now, wearing expensive duds or jewelry might give the impression that you might not need money (or that the company might not be able to afford you), and that’s one thing (TBH, that idea already sounds a little iffy to us). But that’s not what Bruce Hurwitz is saying in a recent LinkedIn essay that’s getting a lot of attention, and a lot of heat.

Get ready for some b.s., because as Vogue points out, his advice “to ‘lose the rock’ is not financial advice; on the contrary, it’s social, and decidedly sexist.” Why? Because, according to good ol’ Bruce, “when a man sees that ring, he immediately assumes you are high maintenance.” WTF?

But, wait! He didn’t stop there. “When the woman at the office who has the largest diamond on her finger sees that ring, she will realize that if you are hired she will fall to second place and will, therefore, not like you.” OMG so many eye rolls, it’s actually painful.

Casually dressed female colleagues talking in a meeting room

There is just so much wrong with this. For starters, it claims that women rank themselves and each other by their jewelry, not to mention that we supposedly hate each other if we perceive ourselves as less, in this case if someone else has a bigger engagement ring. Also, that a man would assume women would care about this dumb AF stuff at all when in reality, we have to deal with workplace discrimination, sexual harassment, unequal pay, lack of affordable daycare… it’s just ridiculous, and none of us need his advice. Seriously, dumb AF.

Final note (are you listening, dudes like Bruce?): STOP TRYING TO PIT WOMEN AGAINST EACH OTHER!

Stay strong, gals, and remember that your Brit + Co #girlsquad is behind you all the way!

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(h/t Vogue; photos via Getty)