Four years ago, Lana Wachowski, one half of the masterminds behind films like V for Vendetta聽and The Matrix聽trilogy, officially came out to the world as a transgender woman. What was deeply unfair about her story, however, is long before she made any official announcements, there was already plenty of speculation and rumored reporting done by news outlets 鈥 some even 10 years before the director鈥檚 own statement. Just yesterday, the other half of the Wachowski siblings, Lilly Wachowski, also came聽out as trans in a powerful essay she penned for聽Windy City Times,聽which was befittingly published on International Women鈥檚 Day鈥β燽ut not before a larger news outlet threatened to out her to the world.

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In her brutally #girlboss essay, Lilly writes, 鈥淚 knew at some point I would have to come out publicly. You know, when you鈥檙e living as an out transgender person it鈥檚鈥 kind of difficult to hide. I just wanted 鈥 needed some time to get my head right, to feel comfortable.聽But apparently I don鈥檛 get to decide this.鈥

She goes on to聽detail the story of a reporter showing up unsolicited at her doorstep from聽The Daily Mail聽in the UK (which the paper now denies):

鈥淪tanding on my front porch was a man I did not recognize. 鈥楾his might be a little awkward,鈥 he said in an English accent鈥β燞e proceeded to explain he was a journalist from the Daily Mail鈥 And that I really had to sit down with him tomorrow or the next day or next week so that I could have my picture taken and tell my story which was so inspirational!

鈥淎fter he had given me his card, and I closed the door it began to dawn on me where I had heard of the Daily Mail. It was the 鈥榥ews鈥 organization that had played a huge part in the national public outing of Lucy Meadows, an elementary school teacher and trans woman in the UK. An editorial in the 鈥榥ot-a-tabloid鈥 demonized her as a damaging influence on the children鈥檚 delicate innocence and summarized 鈥榟e鈥檚 not only trapped in the wrong body, he鈥檚 in the wrong job.鈥 The reason I knew about her wasn鈥檛 because she was transgender, it was because three months after the Daily Mail article came out, Lucy committed suicide.鈥

In an incredibly brave move, Lilly decided to come out publicly, but she would do so on her聽own terms聽鈥 and she鈥檇 drop聽some serious life lessons along the way. 鈥淚n response to this threatened public outing against my will, I had a prepared a statement that was one part piss, one part vinegar and 12 parts gasoline,鈥 she writes. (*insert millions of voices screaming, 鈥淵AAAAAAS!鈥 here*) 鈥淪o yeah, I鈥檓 transgender.聽And yeah, I鈥檝e transitioned.鈥 She goes on to state how she feels like she is 鈥渙ne of the lucky ones鈥 to have the support of her family and friends. 鈥淗aving the support of my family and the means to afford doctors and therapists has given me the chance to actually survive this process.鈥

Lilly takes issue with the words 鈥樷漷ransgender鈥 and 鈥渢ransitioned,鈥澛 however, and makes an incredibly valid point as to why these terms can be misleading and problematic. 鈥淭here is a lack of nuance of time and space,鈥 she writes. 鈥淭o be transgender is something largely understood as existing within the dogmatic terminus of male or female. And to 鈥榯ransition鈥 imparts a sense of immediacy, a before and after from one terminus to another. But the reality, my reality is that I鈥檝e been transitioning and will continue to transition all of my life,聽through the infinite that exists between male and female as it does in the infinite between the binary of zero and one.鈥

鈥淲e need to elevate the dialogue beyond the simplicity of binary,鈥 she concludes. 鈥淏inary is a false idol.鈥澛燘OOM. Mic drop.

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(Photo via Lilly Wachowski/Windy City News)