So you鈥檝e been dating your S.O. for awhile, and you鈥檝e decided it鈥檚 time to move in together. Well, hopefully 鈥 this really shouldn鈥檛 be an 鈥淥h crap, my lease is up and I didn鈥檛 plan鈥 situation. But even when you鈥檙e trying to do everything 鈥渞ight,鈥 making the leap to full-time cohabiting is still a big transition. It鈥檚 easy to get lost in the excitement of not having to pack a bag to spend the night together or getting to split your rent, but the fact is, there鈥檚 a lot more to living together than just making over a living room. Whether you鈥檙e thinking about taking the plunge or you鈥檙e already in the middle of it, here are some tips to keep your relationship healthy despite all the challenges of sharing a space. And a bed. And bills. And laundry. And a thermostat.

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1. Make sure you really want to do this. Like we said already 鈥 this shouldn鈥檛 be about needing a place to live. Some totally valid reasons to hold off include: You don鈥檛 think they (or you) can carry their fair share of the financial responsibility, you鈥檙e not sure you see the relationship lasting long-term or you just plain don鈥檛 want to give up having your own space. Your lying-around-in-your-pajamas-wearing-a-face-mask-and-browsing-online-sales-with-no-one-bothering-you time is important.

2. Don鈥檛 make a big deal out of it online. Not only are your 鈥淥MG our love鈥 Insta posts super annoying, it could also be an indication that you鈥檙e not as secure in your relationship as you think. If you do find yourself over-sharing about the intimate details of your bae鈥檇-up life online, take a hard look at why. You shouldn鈥檛 move in with someone if it鈥檚 just another way that you鈥檙e 鈥減erforming鈥 happiness or what you think is expected of your relationship.

3. Be deliberate about spending quality time together. Just because you wake up next to each other every morning doesn鈥檛 mean you no longer need to put in an effort to really see each other. In some ways, it gets even harder to schedule quality time, because you hardly notice you鈥檙e not doing it. It might sound cheesy, but you still need 鈥渄ate nights鈥 鈥 even if it鈥檚 just a Netflix date.

couple breakfast eggs

4. Share household responsibilities equally. You鈥檙e not your S.O.鈥檚 parent, so you shouldn鈥檛 have to remind them to make the bed or that the bathroom needs to be cleaned. But you also shouldn鈥檛 be doing it all yourself. Figure out who鈥檚 doing what on a regular basis, whether that means you always dust the living room and they always clean the kitchen floor or you rotate tasks each week. Whatever your system, the most important thing is that you have one, because it鈥檚 not fair for you to have to be the chore nag.

5. Have a plan in case you break up. It might be unpleasant to talk about, but it doesn鈥檛 mean you鈥檙e saying it鈥檚 inevitable. You鈥檙e just being realistic about the fact that, in every relationship, it鈥檚 a possibility. If you鈥檝e discussed things like who would move out, who would keep the security deposit and who gets the furniture, it鈥檒l make everything a lot less painful and stressful if the relationship does come to an end. Even if you think something鈥檚 obvious (like of course you鈥檇 keep Mittens, he鈥檚 your cat), it鈥檚 best to make sure.

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