We鈥檙e not going聽to sugarcoat it: Breakups聽are totally awful. Even if none of your friends liked your partner聽or聽you were fighting with that S.O. way too much, a broken heart can put you into a slump for months. But there might be some promise for a cure, thanks to a聽new study from the University of Colorado at Boulder. It shows that the best thing you can do to bounce back from a breakup is find your personal placebo, which is a 鈥渇ake鈥 treatment that聽only helps because you think it will. Basically, you trick your brain into thinking you鈥檙e over it.

First of all, you鈥檙e not imagining things if your heartbreak is so intense聽that you actually feel physical pain in your chest. To prove this, researchers recruited 40 participants who鈥檇 been dumped in the last six months and asked them to show up at an imaging lab with a picture of their ex. The research team took scans of each person鈥檚 brain while they were shown pictures of their former flame聽and were told to think about the breakup. Then participants were subjected to a super-hot, painful device on their left forearm during another round of brain scans. (Sounds like the worst day ever to us.) The parts of the brain that lit up during emotional pain and physical pain were really similar, though not identical. Senior study author Tor Wager, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at CU Boulder, shares this message with the heartbroken: 鈥淜now that your pain is real 鈥 neurochemically real.鈥

After the initial scans, participants were divided into two groups. To test how helpful a placebo can be for heartbreak, one group was given a nasal spray and told it was a super-effective treatment for emotional pain. The researchers told the other group that it was just plain old saline. Then more brain scans were taken of each group. The results were clear: The intensity of the placebo group鈥檚 emotional and physical pain decreased, and a part of the brain that helps with pain by releasing chemicals like dopamine was turned on.

鈥淛ust the fact that you are doing something for yourself and engaging in something that gives you hope may have an impact,鈥 explains first author and postdoctoral research associate Leonie Koban. Stop wallowing on the couch and stalking your ex on social media 鈥 get up, get dressed, and go do something you love to do. We also think a rebound boo can count as a placebo, so go for it if that鈥檚 what you think will help. Koban鈥檚 bottom line if you鈥檝e been dumped recently? 鈥淒oing anything that you believe will help you feel better will probably help you feel better.鈥

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