Regularly Seeing a Therapist Is Not a Bad Thing + Here’s Why
You go to the (virtual) doctor for a yearly checkup. You bring your car in for an oil change. You transition your summer wardrobe to fall. As humans, we naturally take care of ourselves, and while a spa day here and there might help, we so often overlook our mental health when partaking in self-care. Earl Lewis, a couples and family therapist, believes in ending the stigma that can come with seeing a mental health professional. Seeing a therapist should be a routine part of maintaining your overall mental health, not something you do only when you face a tough personal challenge.
“My clients are everyday people that you walk down the street with,” he said. “I’ve seen people with high economic status and low economic status. I’ve seen people with nowhere to live and I’ve seen high class. It’s all over the spectrum.”
While some issues might render mental health care absolutely necessary, Dr. Lewis says that even mundane, everyday stresses can be remedied by seeing a therapist. Most people can be reluctant to see a therapist for regular mental health care, especially because we live in a day and age where independence and self-help are championed.
Despite these societal tendencies, Dr. Lewis believes that self-care doesn’t necessarily mean caring for yourself by yourself. To him, self-care means working with a therapist to establish preventative measures against more serious mental health disorders such as anxiety and depression.
Two great examples of things to chat with a therapist about are relationships and pressure-related stress. “Relationships are very complex and abstract,” he says. “Sometimes, you just need a person who’s an outside eye to look into your relationship and notice things.”
Dr. Lewis also says that these issues are especially important for millennials who are experiencing these types of stressors for the first time. Because millennials are so eager to fend for themselves, seeing a therapist might be the last thing they think of when they consider coping with a situation. Many young people will turn to friends and family for help, but Dr. Lewis says that seeing a therapist can be the perfect complement to a support network you already have.
“Seeing a therapist isn’t exclusively about mental health,” Dr. Lewis said. “It’s about self-care management. What do I do when I have all these things going on to prevent from getting depressed? When you’re stressed and overwhelmed, that’s when depression and anxiety can set in. A therapist can help.”
Whether you have great mental health or can feel your mental state slipping (or anywhere in-between), Dr. Lewis argues that seeing a therapist should be as normal as going to your regular medical doctor. Convinced? Contact Dr. Lewis through his website, www.RelationshipsGoneRight.Com.
How do you keep yourself mentally healthy? Let us know @BritandCo!
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)