Scrolling through your social feeds is sure to provide two things: baby pictures and engagement photos. And something else you might have noticed an increase in over the past few years is that engagements initiated by women are getting more and more common. While every relationship is different and some couples prefer to stick with more traditional marriage聽roles, many couples are changing the way they divide responsibilities within their relationship 鈥 like income, housework, emotional labor, and proposals. We decided to talk to some relationship experts to get the scoop on the awesome trend of women popping the question.

What鈥檚 behind the trend?

The answer to this question is mostly what you would expect, says Christene Lozano, a licensed marriage and family therapist. 鈥淲omen are becoming more empowered to ask for what they want,鈥 she explains. In other words, women feel more confident taking the initiative, especially if they don鈥檛 feel like waiting for someone else to do it! 鈥淪ome women describe their relationships as being unconventional and nontraditional, so proposing is very fitting for their relationship,鈥 she says. Chances are, if you already feel that your relationship is not 鈥渃onventional,鈥 you鈥檒l be less worried about whether your choices 鈥 including how the proposal actually goes down 鈥 fit into traditional marriage practices.

In addition to overall strides in female empowerment, internet dating has affected dating norms as well. 鈥淎ttitudes began changing when dating apps shifted the dynamic of courtship and allowed women to initiate connections with thousands of dating options at their fingertips,鈥 explains Damona Hoffman, dating expert and host of the Dates & Mates Podcast. 鈥淚 believe that having many choices has led women to become more empowered in relationships. If you are a true believer in equal partnership, then you must also let go of antiquated ideals about traditions in the relationship 鈥 including the proposal ritual.鈥 Agreed!

Hoffman also notes that the trend could have something to do with the fact that some women wait longer to tie the knot than in previous generations. 鈥淚n today鈥檚 world, by the time a woman is ready for marriage, she is very clear on who her guy is and is also aware that her biological clock limits the amount of time she has to move the relationship forward or move on,鈥 she says. It makes sense that if you know what you鈥檙e looking for and you feel that you don鈥檛 want to waste time, you may be more likely to take matters into your own hands.

What to know before you ask

Just like if the roles were reversed, if you鈥檙e considering asking your boo to marry you, you definitely want to test the waters to make sure they鈥檙e really the right person for you first. 鈥淲hile I love a great rom-com with a dramatic surprise proposal, in real life, there are a lot of conversations that need to take place before that point to determine if someone will be the right life partner for you,鈥 says Hoffman. 鈥淏efore planning a grand proposal, I recommend that a woman makes sure she and her partner share common values and goals for the future.鈥

Another thing to consider? 鈥淵ou also have to know what kind of man you鈥檙e with. If he comes from a traditional household and/or believes in classic male/female roles, he could see a proposal from you as a challenge to his manhood or feel like his purpose has been taken from him,鈥 says Hoffman. On the other hand, it鈥檚 likely that if you鈥檙e seriously considering proposing to your guy, you already know that your relationship fits into a less conventional category, and in which case, we say go for it!

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