This Is Why More Women Are Proposing Than Ever Before
Scrolling through your social feeds is sure to provide two things: baby pictures and engagement photos. And something else you might have noticed an increase in over the past few years is that engagements initiated by women are getting more and more common. While every relationship is different and some couples prefer to stick with more traditional marriage roles, many couples are changing the way they divide responsibilities within their relationship — like income, housework, emotional labor, and proposals. We decided to talk to some relationship experts to get the scoop on the awesome trend of women popping the question.
What’s behind the trend?
The answer to this question is mostly what you would expect, says Christene Lozano, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “Women are becoming more empowered to ask for what they want,” she explains. In other words, women feel more confident taking the initiative, especially if they don’t feel like waiting for someone else to do it! “Some women describe their relationships as being unconventional and nontraditional, so proposing is very fitting for their relationship,” she says. Chances are, if you already feel that your relationship is not “conventional,” you’ll be less worried about whether your choices — including how the proposal actually goes down — fit into traditional marriage practices.
In addition to overall strides in female empowerment, internet dating has affected dating norms as well. “Attitudes began changing when dating apps shifted the dynamic of courtship and allowed women to initiate connections with thousands of dating options at their fingertips,” explains Damona Hoffman, dating expert and host of the Dates & Mates Podcast. “I believe that having many choices has led women to become more empowered in relationships. If you are a true believer in equal partnership, then you must also let go of antiquated ideals about traditions in the relationship — including the proposal ritual.” Agreed!
Hoffman also notes that the trend could have something to do with the fact that some women wait longer to tie the knot than in previous generations. “In today’s world, by the time a woman is ready for marriage, she is very clear on who her guy is and is also aware that her biological clock limits the amount of time she has to move the relationship forward or move on,” she says. It makes sense that if you know what you’re looking for and you feel that you don’t want to waste time, you may be more likely to take matters into your own hands.
What to know before you ask
Just like if the roles were reversed, if you’re considering asking your boo to marry you, you definitely want to test the waters to make sure they’re really the right person for you first. “While I love a great rom-com with a dramatic surprise proposal, in real life, there are a lot of conversations that need to take place before that point to determine if someone will be the right life partner for you,” says Hoffman. “Before planning a grand proposal, I recommend that a woman makes sure she and her partner share common values and goals for the future.”
Another thing to consider? “You also have to know what kind of man you’re with. If he comes from a traditional household and/or believes in classic male/female roles, he could see a proposal from you as a challenge to his manhood or feel like his purpose has been taken from him,” says Hoffman. On the other hand, it’s likely that if you’re seriously considering proposing to your guy, you already know that your relationship fits into a less conventional category, and in which case, we say go for it!
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)