10 Things You Should Tell Your Parents More Often in 2018
It’s a new year, and you’re probably throwing all your effort into achieving the resolutions — or embodying a power word — that will help you become your best self. And while we totally support your personal development and want you to chase those goals if doing so makes you happy, we also want to remind you of the people who would probably be 100 percent content to see you stay just the way you already are in 2018: your parents! The special individuals who gave you life and have continued to support you in all kinds of ways ever since. Even if your relationship with your parents is complicated, you wouldn’t be here without them, and it’s certainly worth acknowledging that fact as you kick off a new chapter, no?
With that in mind, we encourage you to be a bit more intentional in the way you speak to Mom and Dad in the new year. Whether you and your parents are as close as can be or operate at a frosty distance, you can make small changes that will improve the quality of your conversations and, ultimately, help you relate to each other in a more respectful way. Keep scrolling for 10 statements you should consider saying to your parents more frequently in 2018.
1. “I know that you work really hard.” When you were a kid, you probably never realized how much effort your parents put in at the office or with the family at home, but now that you’ve glimpsed the realities of adulthood for yourself, it’s likely that you’ve gained a greater appreciation for all they’ve invested in your life. Be sure to let them know that their work hasn’t gone unnoticed!
2. “Dinner’s on me!” It might take a while for Mom and Dad to warm up to the idea of you footing the bill, so take baby steps by buying the occasional dinner for them in the new year. We’re not asking you to buy anyone’s love or respect here. We’re simply suggesting that picking up a tab here and there is an excellent way to demonstrate that you’re ready to take on a slightly more grown-up role within the family.
3. “When can I come see you?” We’re pretty confident that you already have trips planned for all the major holidays in 2018, and you’re probably more than happy to go home for a visit if your parents ask you to, but what would happen if you were more proactive about making plans to see them on their turf? Check in with the ‘rents to see if they’d like to see you on a day when the banks aren’t closed — and make that trip happen.
4. “What’s new with you?” It’s easy to assume that, as the “kid” in the relationship, you’re the only one with interesting news to share, but your parents may have updates for you too! Don’t wait for them to bring it up. Ask Mom or Dad what’s happening in her or his world at the beginning of your next phone call.
5. “Can you tell me about the time when… ” Too often, we forget to tap into the amazing wealth of stories our parents have to share. Chances are that if you simply take the time to pull up a chair, pour a glass of wine, and ask, your parents will be more than happy to entertain you with hilarious stories from their college years or pass on an important lesson they learned in the early days of parenting. Seriously, you’ll be amazed by their wisdom and experience.
6. “Is there anything I can help you with this week?” This one’s a little easier if you live nearby (think running errands, mowing the lawn, or taking the dogs for a walk), but all it takes to incorporate it from a distance is a little creativity. Is your Mom running short on time and laundry detergent? Order her favorite brand in bulk online and have it delivered to her door. Does your Dad need help with projects around the house? Send a TaskRabbit Tasker over to lend a hand.
7. “I’m sorry about that time that I…” There’s no need to open up old wounds, but if you’re well aware of something you’ve done over the years that still warrants an apology, there’s no time like the present — or any time in 2018 — to finally come clean and set things right.
8. “I forgive you for…” Just as you worry that your parents might have unresolved issues with you, your parents probably worry that you have unresolved issues with them. Do a little soul-searching or take time to talk with a counselor who can help you settle your years-old beef with Mom and Dad in a genuine way. When you’re ready to do it honestly, tell them that all is forgiven.
9. “I think you’re pretty cool.” No amount of dad jokes or mom jeans can make the people who literally created you anything less than awesome. Give your parents a little more credit this year, and be a bit more generous with your compliments and positive feedback.
10. “Thank you.” This one should need no explanation. We all owe Mom and Dad tons of gratitude. Maybe this is the year we get a bit more vocal about it.
What do you want to say to Mom and Dad more often in the year ahead? Tweet us @BritandCo!
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)