For many of us, 2016 was a doozy, but we here at Brit + Co are ready to hit refresh in 2017! Follow our Hit Refresh series through January for new ideas, hacks and skills that will help you achieve (and maintain!) those New Year鈥檚 resolutions.

It takes a ton of effort to stick to a resolution, even when you take聽tiny steps to聽start a habit. Incredibly, 80 percent of New Year鈥檚 resolutions, like getting healthy or learning how to save money like a pro, fail by mid-February. Good news, though: It turns out a magical combination exists to help you achieve success and keep pushing forward. According to Shine, an app that makes daily well-being easier through messaging, self-compassion and consistency聽are key. We talked with founders Marah Lidey and Naomi Hirabayashi聽to get the scoop on how to master each for maximum success.


WHEN IT COMES TO SETTING GOALS OR RESOLUTIONs, how is self-compassion a game-changer?

Marah and Naomi say that when it comes to the power of self-compassion, it鈥檚 actually pretty simple. We should be prepared to make mistakes or suffer slip-ups, because we all will. It鈥檚 totally normal and human! They wisely say, 鈥淏ig, shiny goals are awesome at the beginning of the year, but they become less empowering when we can鈥檛 sustain them.鈥

They went on to explain that Dr. Kristin Neff, a psychologist and researcher, defines self-compassion in three abilities: self-kindness, common humanity and mindfulness. Marah and Naomi used this knowledge to build the brand-new Shine experience, which is specially designed to elevate self-compassion.


1. Self-Kindness:聽Marah says, 鈥淪hine helps you practice more self-kindness by celebrating your consistent actions (vs. just big, lofty hitting goals) around your daily intention with a new 鈥榗heck in鈥 feature.鈥 So awesome.

2. Common Humanity:聽Recognizing we鈥檙e not alone in our daily struggles helps us practice more self-compassion, Naomi says. We love Shine鈥檚 new feature 鈥淪hine Corner,鈥 which is a feed full of anonymous, encouraging and supportive posts from people who are working on the same intention as you. Hooray for community!

3. Mindfulness:聽Shine makes it easier to practice mindfulness by sending you a daily intention every morning via text. Just like an affirmation or mantra can help you with a luck-making mindset, each text gives you a single action for the day that鈥檒l help you live with intent.

Which resolutions can we crush with self-compassion?

The Shine team tells us that the most common resolutions tend to be 鈥渢hings that are health-focused (sticking with a new eating plan or losing weight), nailing a big achievement (writing a New York Times bestseller) or breaking a habit that might make you feel guilty (drinking too much or Netflix binging).鈥 The founders say the problem with these resolutions is that they feel binary by nature. Basically, if you don鈥檛 see major progress right away, you likely feel like you want to give up (isn鈥檛 that the truth).

To switch up your thinking, the wise women of Shine tell us to take a more realistic and overall healthier approach to making resolutions. For example, 鈥淚nstead of focusing on the number on the scale or some external accolade, try to stick with something you can do often.鈥 The team also stresses remembering to treat yourself with kindness when you鈥檙e having an off day.


Here are a few other ideas for how you can flip the script when it comes to specific goals, and how you think about achieving them:

1. Writing: Write for 10 minutes every day.

2. Confidence: Do a daily reflection on what you鈥檙e most proud of.

3. Relationships: Spend five minutes every day thinking of something you can do for someone in your life.

What are your resolutions this year?

We were stoked to get a chance to chat with Marah and Naomi about how they鈥檙e personally looking to evolve in 2017 and how they plan to accomplish their goals with self-compassion and consistency. Marah tells us, 鈥淚 love a good murder mystery book, but I found that last year my reading list severely lacked diversity. This year, I鈥檓 focused on my personal growth by reading, attending and experiencing more works created by people of color.鈥


Naomi chimed in with her goals, which were centered on being totally present in the moments that matter. She says, 鈥淚 want to be more present, from a brunch catch-up with friends, my favorite catch-up convos with my husband when we get home, to creative brainstorms for Shine. It鈥檚 definitely tough to not constantly be thinking through my master to-do list in almost every moment, but I鈥檒l be more high-impact on the work that matters if I鈥檓 focusing on what I can control: the current moment.鈥 Amen.

Will you use Shine to crush your resolutions and accomplish your goals? Tweet us @BritandCo聽and tell us how you like it!

(Photos via Shine; Getty)