Attention all #girlbosses: It鈥檚 time for us to stand up and get what we deserve. That鈥檚 right, we鈥檙e talking about increasing your salary. Even if you just slayed your first聽business trip, sitting down face-to-face with your supervisor and asking for a pay raise can be stressful鈥 and awkward. Which is why we called in a聽pro to help us avoid flubbing our聽request for more pay. Kim Wensel, owner of Pattern of Purpose and a career coach for millennials, breaks down the six things you should absolutely NOT do when asking for a聽salary bump.


1. Don鈥檛 make it personal. As much as you think this request is all about you 鈥斅your performance, your work ethic and your commitment to the company 鈥 it鈥檚 not. Kim suggests making it about the company instead. 鈥淔rame your ask in a way that shows your employer how you鈥檙e helping them do better business, reach their goals, make more money and run a more efficient system. This will encourage them to see you as an asset worth investing in,鈥 she explains.

2. Don鈥檛 ask before you鈥檝e worked聽there for a year. You might join a team and totally rock it from day one, but that doesn鈥檛 necessarily mean you deserve a raise right away. Kim notes that it typically takes six months to learn the role and another six months to show your contributions. She adds that you should 鈥渦se this time to build your proof [that you deserve a raise], and you鈥檒l be armed to go in with a good case on your one-year anniversary.鈥

3. Don鈥檛 base your ask on how long you鈥檝e been with the company. Length of employment doesn鈥檛 automatically equal more money. 鈥淥ften I see employees asking for a raise simply because they鈥檝e been there for X amount of years,鈥 Kim advises. 鈥淵ou don鈥檛 deserve a raise for keeping a seat warm; you deserve it because of your accomplishments.鈥

4. Don鈥檛 bring up a colleague鈥檚 name and salary as a comparison.聽Kim mentions that of course it鈥檚 fine to base your ask on industry averages, but bringing in another employee鈥檚 personal information is a no-no. 鈥淵ou don鈥檛 know the full reasons behind why someone else is getting paid what they are,鈥 she says. 鈥淏ringing up this information also can make it look like you鈥檙e complaining or making the assumption that everyone at the same level deserves to be paid the same, which just isn鈥檛 true.鈥

5. Don鈥檛 forget to show proof.聽While we鈥檙e 100 percent confident that you鈥檙e rocking your nine-to-fives like the #girlboss that you are, your manager聽might not take notice of the things you get done on the daily. To make sure you鈥檙e loaded with the proof that you deserve more moolah, Kim suggests that you 鈥渂ring examples of your value to the table. This could include emails of praise for your role on a project, as well as tangible products you played a part in creating. By showing the output of your work, you can build a much stronger case for your value.鈥

6. Don鈥檛 ask for a raise without stating a number.聽鈥淚t can be totally intimidating to put a number behind your ask, but without it, you risk your employer not matching your expectations. State your desired salary confidently,鈥 Kim suggests. 鈥淭here is so much power in being transparent and guiding your employer to the dollar amount you think you鈥檙e worth. Assume they will say yes and not no, and you鈥檒l feel much more confident with the ask.鈥

Have you successfully negotiated a raise? Tweet us how you made it happen聽@BritandCo!

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