6 Things NOT to Do When You’re Asking for a Raise
Attention all #girlbosses: It’s time for us to stand up and get what we deserve. That’s right, we’re talking about increasing your salary. Even if you just slayed your first business trip, sitting down face-to-face with your supervisor and asking for a pay raise can be stressful… and awkward. Which is why we called in a pro to help us avoid flubbing our request for more pay. Kim Wensel, owner of Pattern of Purpose and a career coach for millennials, breaks down the six things you should absolutely NOT do when asking for a salary bump.
1. Don’t make it personal. As much as you think this request is all about you — your performance, your work ethic and your commitment to the company — it’s not. Kim suggests making it about the company instead. “Frame your ask in a way that shows your employer how you’re helping them do better business, reach their goals, make more money and run a more efficient system. This will encourage them to see you as an asset worth investing in,” she explains.
2. Don’t ask before you’ve worked there for a year. You might join a team and totally rock it from day one, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you deserve a raise right away. Kim notes that it typically takes six months to learn the role and another six months to show your contributions. She adds that you should “use this time to build your proof [that you deserve a raise], and you’ll be armed to go in with a good case on your one-year anniversary.”
3. Don’t base your ask on how long you’ve been with the company. Length of employment doesn’t automatically equal more money. “Often I see employees asking for a raise simply because they’ve been there for X amount of years,” Kim advises. “You don’t deserve a raise for keeping a seat warm; you deserve it because of your accomplishments.”
4. Don’t bring up a colleague’s name and salary as a comparison. Kim mentions that of course it’s fine to base your ask on industry averages, but bringing in another employee’s personal information is a no-no. “You don’t know the full reasons behind why someone else is getting paid what they are,” she says. “Bringing up this information also can make it look like you’re complaining or making the assumption that everyone at the same level deserves to be paid the same, which just isn’t true.”
5. Don’t forget to show proof. While we’re 100 percent confident that you’re rocking your nine-to-fives like the #girlboss that you are, your manager might not take notice of the things you get done on the daily. To make sure you’re loaded with the proof that you deserve more moolah, Kim suggests that you “bring examples of your value to the table. This could include emails of praise for your role on a project, as well as tangible products you played a part in creating. By showing the output of your work, you can build a much stronger case for your value.”
6. Don’t ask for a raise without stating a number. “It can be totally intimidating to put a number behind your ask, but without it, you risk your employer not matching your expectations. State your desired salary confidently,” Kim suggests. “There is so much power in being transparent and guiding your employer to the dollar amount you think you’re worth. Assume they will say yes and not no, and you’ll feel much more confident with the ask.”
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)