Twins! They鈥檙e just like us. Really, we are. I am a full-time twin (on call 24/7) to my genetically-identical counterpart Abby. Our story is that my cellphone-less dad was on a suuuper long bike ride when he got an overwhelming feeling that he should turn around to go home to his extremely pregnant wife (nice, dad). In true twin telepathic fashion, my mother 鈥 the real MVP of this entire situation 鈥 was at home going into labor when he arrived. Abby and I were born just one minute apart after a slightly stressful birth (I鈥檓 told) in which I allegedly bit her ear in order to be born first. Spoiler alert: It worked.


After being labeled 鈥淏aby A鈥 and 鈥淏aby B鈥 in our incubators at the hospital, we went home to our Post-It note-labeled cribs. From there, we quickly became Mary-Kate and Ashley鈥檚 biggest fans (our parents limited how many times PER DAY we were allowed to watch You鈥檙e Invited to Mary-Kate & Ashley鈥檚 Mall Party). It always felt cool to identify with celeb twins like the Olsens (I have always been Ashley while Abby is def MK), Tia and Tamera and the virtual LiLo twins in The Parent Trap 鈥 all experiences twin-less individuals will never have. So, to give you some insight on just what it鈥檚 like to have an identical PIC, and because every set of multiples has interesting nuggets of info to share, so I鈥檓 divulging 14 twin tidbits that give you a taste of life as a double.


1. Yes, we experience unexplainable feelings and connections: It鈥檚 really difficult to articulate what this means to 鈥渘ormal鈥 people (lol) but my sister and I have always felt a remarkably special connection to each other, and I know many other sets of twins (we stick together) that also attest to this. Above is a photo of when my sister and I flew into Austin from different states and showed up in unplanned, 100% identical outfits.

2. Boring family events are more tolerable: I mean enjoyable. Your Great Step-Aunt鈥檚 90th birthday party instantly becomes a fun time because you have someone to hang with. Case in point: a family wedding is much more fun if you and your sister *both* recently turned 21. You both are stoked and likely on the same level. You wouldn鈥檛 get that with an older or younger sibling; it just wouldn鈥檛 be the same.

3. Who鈥檚 older doesn鈥檛 really matter: Until someone wants it to (I am one minute older than my sister). If we want to get technical, whoever聽was born firstdoes have more life experience than the other, but let鈥檚 be real: no one cares and it doesn鈥檛 really count. It鈥檚 always, always, alwayssss the first question people ask 鈥 followed by, 鈥淏y how much?鈥 Just. Don鈥檛.

4. You drop *everything* when your twin needs you: No. Matter. What. Like any siblings, you鈥檒l inevitably hit some rough patches in your relationship. My sister was dealing with a super lame roommate situation when we were going through one of our rough patches (which for us means not talking for three to five days) and she called me out of the blue to vent. We both knew being there for each other was infinitely more important than whatever our stupid argument was. You can also be there for each other when you鈥檙e both experiencing seasickness at the same time as the below photo shows.

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5. We always talk to other twins: Twins are drawn to other twins; Abby and I are really close with four other sets of twins. My sister and I met these 80-year-old twin sisters at Costco once who were eating pizza together, just the two of them 鈥 it was very #twinspirational. It was a routine they鈥檇 had for years. We talked to them about their relationship and it was such a memorable life moment. More recently, my sister and I were approached by 6-year-old twin girls who ended up giving us advice (it was 鈥渄on鈥檛 steal each other鈥檚 boyfriends,鈥 which is a great general life tip). There鈥檚 something about twins 鈥 we just want to talk to each other.

6. We have different tastes: In life, in love, in fashion, in a lot of things. We are not carbon copies of one another, but there are definitely undeniable parallels among our tastes. We have ordered identical meals from restaurants more times than I can count.


7. We finish each other鈥檚 sentences: It can be annoying, it can be cute and it can get weird. Happens all the time.

8. Never tell a twin, 鈥淭here are two of you!鈥: That鈥檚 both a rude and untrue statement. No two people are exactly the same, and while twins are often similar, they are two separate individuals who deserve to be treated and referred to as such.


9. We appreciate separate birthday things: I have barely ever celebrated 鈥渕y鈥 birthday 鈥 there have been two birthdays I haven鈥檛 spent with my sister and I felt weirdly self-obsessed saying it was 鈥渕y鈥 birthday. It means so much when loved ones take the time to send two totally different birthday greetings, or gifts or whatever! It really is a nod to our individuality when someone has taken the time to think of what *I* specifically want as opposed to what 鈥渢hey鈥 would want.

10. We can try on clothes for each other: I personally despite trying on clothes, so if I鈥檓 shopping with my twin, I will try to coerce her into trying on some stuff for me. I used to do this all the time during my childhood with sunglasses specifically; it was literally like looking in a mirror. Ha!

11. We describe ourselves as the same, but different: It鈥檚 so true. We look the same 鈥 but different! We talk the same 鈥 but differently! With each similarity, there is also a difference and it鈥檚 important for you non-twins to recognize.

12. Yes, we were dressed alike when we were younger: It was mostly precious but sometimes confusing. Our matching outfits often differed a little bit with me always wearing a purple version while my sister wore pink (see, the same but different!) Thankfully, my parents are relatively normal, so this only lasted for a few years and they always let us be individuals, so it never got weird.


13. Switching places isn鈥檛 as easy as it sounds: I don鈥檛 know any twins who have ever successfully pulled this off. I also don鈥檛 really know when or why this would be a good idea other than for people鈥檚 enjoyment.

14. Not all twins know if they鈥檙e fraternal or identical: Most do, but my sister and I *just* found out we are identical (this is the third most frequently asked twin question). All it takes is a simple cheek swab test and you can finally KNOW WHAT YOU ARE.

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a twin? Share your experiences in the comments below.