Sometimes when you’ve had an awful day, you just need a BFF date… or ranting session to make it all better. Misery loves company, right? It turns out how you choose to cope with the not-so-great news in your life can impact your ability to bounce back from the negative. Alison Ledgerwood, a social psychologist at UC Davis, says that once you think about something as a loss, it tends to stick in your head and resist your attempts to change it. That means it’s harder for our minds to see the upside.
Instead of grumbling about the stupid traffic jam or the negative feedback you received at work, which can actually make you feel worse, Ledgerwood recommends rehearsing good news and sharing it with others. This small change can slowly train your mind to process information from a more positive perspective and help you recover from bad news faster.
If you’re trying to put yourself in a better place to deal with negative comments, the first step is thinking about other identities, such as your connection to your family, your gorgeous skin or an awesome hobby that you enjoy. “Thinking about that other aspect of your life that feels important to you and a time when you felt like you excelled at that can help buffer you against negative comments in another area,” says Ledgerwood.
Hold onto the good stuff by journaling about things that you are grateful or thankful for. Noticing the moments when you feel happy can make it easier to pay more attention to them.
What’s your favorite pick-me-up? Share your go-to’s with us on Twitter @BritandCo!
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It can be intimidating to step out on your own and build a business from the ground up. As part of our collaboration with Office Depot, we're talking with Selfmade alum and solopreneur Colette Lawrence, the faith-based motivator and relationship builder behind The M.E.E. Movement, about ways in which women in business can find success.
B + C: How did you know M.E.E. Movement was your business to start?
The M.E.E Movement represents motivation, empowerment, and encouragement for women. It is what represents me. I did not know at first that it was my business to start, but then the thought of monetizing what I loved came to me. It scared me, however. I registered the business in July 2020 and have been slowly building my wings since.
B + C: What's one strategy that's helped you start your business?
Thinking through and researching what the requirements are to start my business, and then asking questions of people who are in the business. Not all advice worked; however, it helped me to figure out what I needed to do and not to do.
B + C: Did you always know life coaching would be your entrepreneurial path?
(Smiles) No, I did not. I 'stumbled" on it. I knew that people were always coming to me for advice and I found that I loved having conversations with them, especially with women, young and old.
B + C: What was your most valuable takeaway from Selfmade?
My most valuable takeaway was the first day of training: Get out of your own way. There were a lot of great moments and important takeaways from every presenter. However, getting out of my own way, pushing past doubts, was for me my most valuable takeaway. Doing something that I had never done before took courage. If I do not focus on what is happening with me mentally then I cannot deliver to my clients successfully.
B + C: What's one piece of advice you would give to female entrepreneurs on the brink of starting?
Get out of your head. You have something to offer. You have what you need to succeed so go ahead and do it.
B + C: How do you stay motivated?
I stay motivated by listening to music and listening to motivational speakers, and sometimes someone will just reach out and talk about the impact that I made in their life. That adds the extra juice or sauce I need to pummel through the day.
B + C: What's your best organizational tip?
Keep a diary and journal. It's the best way for me to keep organized and it also provides a source motivation as I record not only my "losses" but my wins as well.
B + C: Who inspires you in the entrepreneurial space?
Shirley Toliver – She motivates and empowers and makes me always want to show up.
B + C: What has receiving the Office Depot scholarship to Selfmade done to help you start or grow your business?
The scholarship was a blessing in that all the areas that were covered offered valuable information that I needed, from social media to HR. As a new business owner, I needed to know this to increase my own personal awareness in what it takes to run a successful business. The candidness of the presenters made it easy to see myself in their shoes and helped me to realize that I can also get there.
Thanks Colette! You can follow The M.E.E. Movement on Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, and LinkedIn.
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