8 Surprising Ways to Ensure Your Social Media Reflects the Real You

Alli Hoff Kosik
Apr 09, 2018

Over the course of 2017, self-proclaimed “digital nomad” Susi Kaeufer moved more than 50 times — and she didn’t even have to deal with the usual concerns like decluttering and packing an oversized van. Instead, she ran her six-figure online visibility and mindset coaching business from beaches all over the world, grew her Instagram following to over 11,000 people, and launched a Facebook group for other women inspired by her unique lifestyle. For Kaeufer, being an inspirational ‘grammer isn’t about sharing cheesy quotes, captioning every photo with a #humblebrag, or even being an “influencer” in the more typical sense of the word. It’s actually a lot simpler than that.

“We’re all real people,” Kaeufer tells us from a (literal) beachside office. “We all have the bright, shiny side that we love to share on social media, and we all have the other side — the daily struggles, the big struggles. Everything is not inspirational in our lives. But that’s what actually can become inspirational!” Whether your social media following consists of friends and family only or a few thousand strangers, Kaeufer firmly believes that we all have the power to open up about our lives and stories in a way that doesn’t have to feel fake. If you like the idea of taking your social media game to a deeper, more inspirational level, but you aren’t sure where to start or are worried about coming off as a self-promoter, keep scrolling for her eight proven suggestions. These creative — and, in some cases, surprising — tips will get your wheels turning on ways you can share a little more inspo on your own feed.

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Tiger just took over control and booked a 5 star ⭐️ hotel in Bangkok . I trust him.

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1. Lay down some fun facts. If you’re sick of sharing the same old narrative photos of your day-to-day life and are open to your followers getting to know you in a different way, start with some quirky facts about yourself! This is an easy way to bring people — especially those you might not know as well — into your story, so you can more easily reach them with deeper content in the future if you feel so inspired. Kaeufer, for example, has opened up to Instagram about the tiger stuffed animal that travels the world with her to this day, despite the fact that she has very limited space for luggage. “Show something about yourself that is not calculated, that doesn’t have a purpose, that’s not meant to promote you,” she encourages.

2. Get into the behind-the-scenes of your life. One way to pull back the curtain on the so-called “Instagram version” of you (this is the brighter and shinier version, of course) is to show the stuff that’s, well, boring. Post pictures of what you’re eating for lunch or what it looks like when you’re working on your side hustle late at night. When you give people the inside scoop on what your life really looks like, you become a more well-rounded person, and the bright and shiny moments are all the more inspirational and positive when you do share them. Posting a wider range of images — including those from behind the scenes — eliminates the need to be quite so explicitly “inspirational,” because the diversity of your life begins to speak for itself.

3. Stop worrying about what your friends or family will think. If you want to get to a deeper level with your social media community, you need to stop overthinking about what your friends, family, or coworkers might think about each and every post. As soon as you start wondering how specific people will react to specific content, you’ll feel emotionally blocked and will likely revert to a basic, superficial sentence about your #WCW or #MCM. Imagine a fictitious person who might be inspired by something you can share about your journey — even the smallest details! — and consider them while you’re posting, instead.

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It's DAY1 of my Miracle Morning practise. . I meditated for 10 minutes (ok, I tried to sit still and in silence for 10 minutes, but hey!! I'm proud!) . I read my affirmations out loud for 10 minutes. I visualised for 5 minutes in my head and I wrote down my perfect vision for my body and soul for 5 minutes. I read for 10 minutes. I did 17 minutes of Yoga with an app (Now THAT'S a real breakthrough here!) I journaled for 10 minutes. Yep, I feel great! Now I'll check in with emails, notifications and messages for 30 minutes with a timer. How did you start your day?

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4. Share the full timeline. Did you go through a tough breakup a few months ago? Were you feeling inexplicably down in the dumps last week? These seemingly ordinary emotional valleys are instrumental in helping you get to the peaks! When you share your victories, don’t be afraid to let your followers in on the specific challenges you conquered to get there. Next time you compose a post about something exciting you’ve achieved, consider including a few lines in the caption about how you were feeling when things got challenging along the way.

5. Post photos of journals or doodles. Kaeufer is a big fan of mindset journaling, and she occasionally posts photos of uncensored journal pages on Instagram. Not a big journaler? No problem! You can do the same thing with the doodles you made on your dinner napkin or with the overwhelming to-do list that’s staring you down for the week. This is a creative way to share what’s in your head.

6. Don’t worry about being an expert. You don’t need to be a motivational speaker or even a social media influencer to have a message worth sharing. Kaeufer reminds us that everyone has a deeper, inspirational story to communicate, even if it’s only to a smallish network of friends and family. “You don’t have to be Gandhi or Oprah or Tony Robbins to do it,” she tells us. “Everyone has a journey in their life and a story of how they’ve overcome something. It can be something small or it can be something large.” Stop thinking about whether or not you’re “qualified” to open up about beating challenges, getting to the other side of mental illness, or the like. Your personal journey is qualification enough!

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#Repost Just because I’ve taken myself too seriously today 😂💕🍀🙌🏻 . Life is FUN and full of unicorns 🦄💭⭐️

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7. Share something you really don’t want to. It sounds easy, but this one’s a lot harder than it sounds — and according to Kaeufer, it’s the only real way to share your true story with the social media world. Vulnerability may be one of the buzzwords of the moment, but no strategy for vulnerability can beat what happens when you post something scary and simple for hundreds of people to see. Why? Because it’s not calculated! Your followers can sense the simplicity of this gesture, which will give them the space they need to appreciate the honest personal journey that you’re on.

8. Open up about what you stand for. Everyone believes in something. Do you think people should be nicer to each other in the elevator? Do you think everyone should have a chance to travel around the world when they turn 18? Share the things you believe in — big and small, significant and silly — to give people a window into the kind of person you really are. This makes a great jumping-off point for some really interesting, thought-provoking posts that are still relatable.

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Mandy Teefey’s Go-To Hack Will Make Social Media Suck Less

We all have big feelings. And thanks to social media and rising levels of anxiety, those feelings, well, feel bigger than ever. That’s exactly where resources like Wondermind come in. The self-proclaimed “mental health ecosystem” is all about exploring, discussing, and navigating our emotions together. This Mental Health Awareness Month, Wondermind wants you to live your mental health journey in community because Mandy Teefey, who co-founded the company with daughter Selena Gomez, knows what it’s like to walk that journey alone.

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“As I went through a very long journey of finding I did have a mental health diagnosis — and then I was misdiagnosed and then I had to go through that — I was blessed to have the resources to do that,” Teefey, who received an ADHD and trauma diagnosis after a 20-year bipolar misdiagnosis, says. “Whenever I started my journey of discovering what mental condition I had…I didn't have anybody to lean into or explain the way I was feeling.”

While these personal experiences helped Teefey better understand mental health, it wasn’t until she produced Netflix’s 2017 series 13 Reasons Whythat she saw just how far the mental health conversation goes. The hit show went viral almost as soon as it aired because of its realistic depiction of mental health and all the aftershocks of trauma.

“After we did 13 Reasons Why and saw the reaction and the need for that support, me and Selena were trying to really figure out what could be next,” Teefey says. “Everybody was releasing things [at] different times. It's like you have to have 12 apps to have a program, and then remember to use them all. So that's when we decided to create a mental fitness ecosystem. So it's all-encompassing, but there's something for everyone.”

“We're not a medicinal company [but] we do have an advisory committee that oversees everything that we do,” Teefey continues. “We're technically not doctors, but we are for everyone when it comes to feelings. Everybody has feelings and they can go to our content hub and just kind of explore that for a while.”

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Admittedly, that exploration bit is pretty fun. The articles are inspiring, and the worksheets (which are each created by an expert) are incredibly helpful. Seeing every program, article, and podcast episode feels like an opportunity to start fresh, but once you have all the ideas in front of you, what do you actually do? Teefey recommends journaling, even if it’s just a sentence every day. (She also loves watching journaling videos from Planning Annie: “Anytime I'm feeling sad or like a little unmotivated, I put her on.”)

Journaling every day, even if your entries are short, allows you to track your mood over an extended period of time. If you notice a consistent sadness, for example, it could be a sign it’s time to check in with your doctor. Plus, journaling can help prepare you for the conversations mental health appointments bring up.

“Sometimes if you go into a therapy session and you're not really settled or concrete in who you are and what may be going on, you might go through what I went through, which is being misdiagnosed,” Teefey says. “It's more important for you to know who you are and what you need prior to going in. So you can give that to them instead of them guessing and working around that process with you.”

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Establishing a consistent routine can help decrease your stress, whether you’re eating the same breakfast every day, or you stick to a tried and true skincare regimen like Sydney Sweeney’s Cassie does on Euphoria. I immediately thought of this teen drama when Mandy Teefey mentioned how important her 4 a.m. routine is. But while Cassie spends time doing her skincare and makeup, Teefey spends time nurturing her soul.

“If I don't have [that routine], I'm usually really off kilter,” she says. “So I get up at 4 when everyone's still asleep, and I found that time could be about me, and I'm not taking it away from anybody. And so that's really what helped me be more grounded throughout the day.”

I can attest that my own quiet time in the morning is vital for a successful day — as is knowing what my boundaries need to be. Because honestly, boundaries can change daily! Teefey and I both acknowledge we have to stay away from sad music to protect our mental health, and she also recommends staying off social media when you feel your mental health struggling.

“I can go three days without looking at social media and then when I go on there, I start having anxiety because I'm like, ‘Oh my gosh, I haven't liked this person. I haven't even liked our own pictures [for] Wondermind.’ And then I start feeling guilty,” she says. “There's just some kind of [expectation] to do social media and you really don't. Not everybody needs to know everything, you know? There's beauty in privacy.”

Even Selena Gomez admitted at the 2024 Time100 Summit that taking time off Instagram "was the most rewarding gift I gave myself."

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The idea of staying off social media is way easier said than done (speaking from first hand experience here). If you feel like you’re drowning in engagement announcements, anxiety-inducing news, and FOMO, Teefey recommends keeping tabs on your reactions to gauge when it’s time to take a serious break.

“If it invokes any emotion that is a negative emotion, I [know] it's not worth being angry about, it's not worth losing sleep about,” she says. “It just feels like there's an unintentional taunting on social media and, ‘Wait a minute, is that about me?’ You don't know this person and then you start running with all this stuff in your mind.”

Like every area of life, social media is all about balance, and if you’re looking to unplug while still staying informed, Mandy Teefey recommends bringing a journal with you when doing your morning news scroll — that way, you can process emotions while keeping tabs on what’s happening. “If anything evokes emotion, I'm meditating during the quiet time,” she says.

Studies have found journaling can help decrease your anxiety, and that it can help you break obsessive thought cycles. And while you’re the only one who can process your thoughts and emotions, it’s important not to isolate yourself from your community — especially when you’re struggling. “You gotta build trust and you gotta build the boundary of who you volunteer [your] help to,” she says.

When it comes to her own daughters, Mandy Teefey knows it’s a process. “You have to work with them and meet them where they're at, and then see the help they need and don't assume [they’re going through] what you went through,” she says. “You've got to really understand them to be able to give that advice.”

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In her own life, Mandy Teefey got to experience building that trust first-hand with Selena Gomez! “One time it was very, very cold in California and me and Selena were on the opposite sides of the pool,” she says. “We were in sweats and she says, ‘Do you trust me?’ And I went, ‘Yeah.’ And she goes ‘Okay, if you trust me, on three, we're gonna jump in this ice cold pool.’”

While Teefey wasn’t convinced, she trusted Gomez, and they both ended up in the freezing cold water! Which is both a funny story and a fond memory: “We couldn't get out of the pool because [our clothes were] so heavy. It was madness!”

“There's a lot of things I know my daughters don't tell me and that's their right,” she continues. “It's so sensitive between teenagers — especially teenagers — and their parents. They're going through that phase and they don't want to be around them and they don't wanna tell them things. It's definitely not easy but maybe put some feelers out there and just make sure that they know you're there and make it okay to have these conversations.”

Thanks to all this actionable advice, we know that Mental Health Awareness month isn’t limited to TikTok videos or Instagram posts we can reshare. There are real tips we can use to take care of ourselves — and a place to go when we need a boost.

Watch Our Full Interview With Mandy Teefey Here!

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Wondermind Co-Founder Mandy Teefey Helps Us Navigate Big Feelings For Mental Health Awareness Month

If you're struggling with your mental health, check in with your doctor or check out the mental health resources Wondermind offers. You can also use Psychology Today to find a therapist near you.

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32 Mother's Day Gifts Every Mom Will Actually Enjoy

Before I became a mom, I had no idea which gifts for Mother's Day would actually make a mom feel appreciated. I've often heard that it's the thought that counts, but how many cards and homemade meals can moms get? The unfiltered answer to that is "Keep them coming," but there's also the desire to receive something that feels personalized. Gifting her something that speaks to who she is outside of being a mom is the chef's kiss she's probably waiting for.

But, what about when you're shopping for your sister, bestie, or even yourself if you're pregnant? Chances are the moms you know aren't all alike, so it's safe to assume they don't want the things...unless we're talking about sleeping in 👀. Aside from that, here's 27 gifts for Mother's Day that'll speak to all moms in your life. Take it from a real mom, it's time to get a little more personal this year.

Gifts For Mother's Day That'll Move Your Grandma To Happy Tears

Vivee Home Alexis Blue Vase

Visiting your grandparents' homes as a kid usually meant you were going to see some cool and quirky home decor choices. From bright color schemes to odd-shaped vases, you could count on your grandma to be the happy culprit behind whatever you saw. That's why it's important to make sure the gifts for Mother's Day you choose for her are a nod to her quirks and not-so-secretly cool taste.

Vivee Home's Alexis Blue Vase immediately comes to mind when I think about my maternal and paternal grandmothers. For some reason, both of them gravitated towards the color blue and often found ways to incorporate it in their lives daily. If your grandma fancies this color and has a thing for having fresh flowers in her home, she'll adore this pop of porcelain.

Its design is meant to invoke creativity and daydreaming while housing everything from sunflowers to tulips. Plus, you'll feel good knowing that 5% of your purchase goes to The Art Therapy Project!

Hearth & Hand with Magnolia Wood Cookbook Holder with Metal Ledge

Chances are that your grandma has a plethora of cookbooks that she references and lets you know she's passing down to you. If she doesn't have a way to look at them without bending over to peer at the small text in them, gift her this beautiful wooden cookbook holder by Hearth & Hand with Magnolia!

The slanted ledge is angled so cookbooks are eye-level for most cooks while the metal stand reinforces the sturdiness of the holder. Overall, the design has a farmhouse rustic feel to it that may trigger happy memories for your grandma if she grew up on a farm.

And guess? This cookbook holder is only $20 at Target!

Caraway Cookware + Set (Sage)

Does your grandma have a hard time parting ways with things even if they're beyond worn? Welcome to the club! Seriously though, our grandparents are from a time where it wasn't necessarily easily to buy new things just because they wanted them so it's not hard to understand why they're reluctant to let go of things.

If your grandma's beloved pot set is beyond repair, surprise her with Caraway's Cookware Set! The pots and pans are super easy to store, and they can withstand up to 500 degrees of heat! Prayerfully your grandmother doesn't cook her meals on that high of a temperature, but this still should give her a piece of mind that her new shiny pot set won't burn even if she still has a gas stove.

You can snag this beautiful set for less than $200 at Caraway.

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Compartés Pink Chocolate Covered Oreos

Grandma still has a sweet tooth doesn't she? I know because my grandma does too. She was known for keeping packs of gum, peppermint and Werther's caramel candy in her purse so I'm sure you grandma had her snacks of choice too.

If your grandma has a thing for Oreos no matter how they're packaged, she'll love Compartés Pink Chocolate Covered Oreos. She'll got a dozen in this cute little box and will giggle with delight once she sees how pretty the pink chocolate frosting is.

This is a limited edition box so you'll want to make sure you order these for her in time for Mother's Day!

Gifts For Mother's Day That Prove To Your Mom You Do Pay Attention To Her

Udreamer Vinyl Record Player (Wireless)

Chances are that your mom grew up listening to her favorite records on a record player like mine and she may often reminisce about that time if she no longer has one. Surprise her with a more compact version of the one she remembers like this wireless design! It has built-in speakers that'll give any record she listens to a retro sound, but it also has an RCA outlet so she can connect external speakers to it.

One of the best features IMO are the three input options — bluetooth, USB, and AUX — that are also included with the record player. This means she choose songs to play from her iPad, CD player (if she still has one), her laptop, and more! Have no fear though! If she prefers to keep it old school by listening to actual vinyl records, she still has the option to do so!

The grand beauty of it all is that you'll be spending less than $100 to bring a piece of nostalgia to your mom's home.

Eileen Fisher Selle Suede Ballet Flats (Cassis)

If your mom is spending less time in her high heels these days, surprise her with a new pair of ballet flats by Eileen Fisher! They're classically chic so your mom will be able to pair them with anything — jeans, dress slacks, dresses, you name it.

They have a leather outsole with a rubber pod that makes for an extremely comfortable fit despite the appearance of the squared toe areas (they're padded). This is great if you mom works a 9 to 5 job that requires her to be up and down throughout the day.

Armitron The Tilly Bracelet Set

This is one of those gifts for Mother's Day that makes my heart skip several beats because my mom wore a very similar watch similar to the one in this Armitron set for years. When I used to watch her get dressed for work in the morning, I'd always know she was ready for her day when she slid her watch on.

Aside from the vivid memories I have of my own mother wearing a watch, this bracelet maintains a timeless appeal that I've always loved. It has the perfect two tone blend of gold and silver that adds to the overall sleekness of the duo. As much as modern advances are welcomed in fashion, the Roman numerals on the watch's face will never go out of style.

When it comes to aesthetics, a two-toned watch and bracelet set that can be passed down from generation to generation.

You'll spend less than $100 too!

Gifts For Mother's Day To Surprise Your Mother-in-Law (Yes, It Matters)

Made By Mary Birth Flower Stacker Necklaces

Whether you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law or a neutral one, finding gifts for Mother's Day that make her feel appreciated is a pretty nice gesture. It doesn't have be super big or expensive either!

If you've noticed that your mother-in-law tends to wear dainty gold jewelry, follow her lead by gifting her with Made By Mary's hand-drawn stacker necklaces. You have the option of personalizing them or you can order as is. They're tarnish-resistant and hypoallergenic, making them perfect for daily wear.

You won't have to worry about putting a huge dent in your wallet because you can buy them for only $58.

UrbanStems The Pink Champagne

Not into the idea of gifting your mother-in-law jewelry for Mother's Day? I get it and think there's always another option. You can't go wrong with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Aside from roses, she'll find mini calla lilies, hypericum, and ruscus flowers in her new pretty spread that's sure to brighten any surface she places them on.

SAND AND FOG Limoncello Candle

If it always smells good when you walk into your MIL's home, you know that it's all because she loves to strategically place candles throughout various rooms. It's one thing to gift her flowers, but she'll enjoy knowing that you pay attention to her love for great scents.

As someone who's purchased more than a few Sand and Fog candles, trust me when I say that she'll love how quickly her space smells like this candle once it's lit.

You won't believe that you'll be able to snag this candle for less than $15 at Marshalls!

Aromatherapy Associates Moment of Tranquility Sleep Kit

If your MIL is always busy doing things for everyone else, gift her this tranquility sleep kit for Mother's Day from Marshalls! She deserves a moment of peace (and rest) without interruptions. I just know she's going to enjoy drifting off to sleep once she inhales the deep relax sleep mist.

Gifts For Mother's Day That Reminds Your Sister She's *Still* That Girl

Old Navy EveryWear Graphic T-Shirt

If your big sister is like mine, chances are she's a few kids in and works hard in her career. There's nothing wrong with this, but it's possible she doesn't always get time to pour into herself. Sometimes moms need a reminder that they're not doing anything in vain, especially after rough seasons in their lives.

I'm not saying that your sister is going to turn into superwoman if she wears this graphic t-shirt by Old Navy, but it'll help her remember that she's still that girl because your sister is not just a mom; she's a cool mom.

And you'll be an even cooler sister since you'll only spend $10 for this cute shirt.

Gigi Pip Sal Crochet Bucket Hat

The sun has been sharing it's glorious rays with us which means your sister needs something to shield her already tired eyes. This cute bucket hat is one way she can do that on top of adding an extra appeal to her casual mom outfit of an oversized tee, leggings, and new samba sneakers.

Longchamp Sunglasses (Red)

Did your sister recently lose her favorite pair of sunnies and has been having a hard time recovering from her loss? Make a mental note and see if it's in your budget to gift her this pair of Longchamp sunglasses. They're bold, but she'll especially love them if she has a thing for red frames.

They'll bring a pop of color to her casual outfit and serve as the perfect cover if she's out running errands but doesn't really want to talk to many people. There's something about shades that serve as a perfect deterrent in public sometimes.

Clevr Coffee Superlatte

Coffee is life when you're a mom because you it seems like you need as much energy as you can get. If your sister has older sister syndrome, maneuvers motherhood daily, and puts out fires at her job, she needs Clevr's Coffee Superlatte!

It has all the features of an oat milk latte except it also includes adaptogens, mushrooms, and probiotics that make for a soothing drink. No one wants to drink coffee and feel extremely wired later because that can add to unnecessary stress that your sister may want to get rid of.

For just $28, your sister can enjoy 14 lattes that have just two grams of sugar in them! What's not to love?

Rhode Skin Lip Case

One thing I know is that my sister believes in keeping her phone case on and a moisturizing lip product nearby. She's never said they're mandatory things but I've yet to see her without both of them. I'd be lying if I said it's easy for her to keep up with her lip balms or glosses, hence why I included this innovative gift.

Pair it with Rhode's Peptide Lip Treatment so your sister doesn't feel frustrated when she realizes her other lip products don't go with this particular case. As far as we're concerned, she won't think twice after trying the peptide treatment because her lips will be the softest they've ever been.

Candier Girl, Make Waves and Turn The Tide

Your sister's been dreaming of going on vacation again hasn't she? *Sigh* So has the editorial and social team at Brit + Co.

This candle deserves a spot in your sister's room, bathroom, or reading nook because it's sure to make her feel like she's on vacation each time she takes a deep breath. It smells like fresh ocean air, citrus, musk, and pink sea salt — hence the candle's title.

Since your sister is sure to fall in love with this candle, it's important that you tell her it's made without carcinogens, parabens, and phthalates.

Did I mention that its $29 at Ulta?

Heyday Active Noise Cancelling Bluetooth Wireless Headphones (Pastel Lavender)

If your sister doesn't want to go anywhere for Mother's Day, she may want to spend time by herself. Help her block out excess noise while she's reading, listening to her favorite audiobook, or sleeping with these noise cancelling headphones.

Choose the lilac pair so she doesn't misplace them when she really needs them!

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Piglet in Bed Pink Bloom Linen Pajama Shorts Set

Since we're on the subject of relaxation, I know it's time for your sister to upgrade her pajamas. I'm sure she has a few pajama tops that still smell like breastmilk no matter how many times she's washed them (it's a powerful scent).

She'll appreciate wearing this linen shorts set that's super soft and breathable.

Gifts For Mother's Day That Book Lovers Won't Get Enough Of

Amazon Kindle 6" E-Reader

I know you have at least one friend that loves reading books and would spend her entire day reading if she didn't have anything else to do. I'm secure enough to say that I'm that mom friend and would absolutely love if someone gifted me a kindle for Mother's Day.

I love physical copies of books, but sometimes I wish I had something that didn't take up so much space. One thing I know is that kindles allow you to comfortably read books without worrying that you're going to fall asleep and lose your place because you dropped your book just as things were getting good.

With Kindle Unlimited, I'd get access to over 2 million books and I wouldn't feel overwhelmed because they'll all be on this compact device.

This version is $100 at Target!

Kate Spade New York Canvas Tote Bag with Interior Pocket

Book lovers need something to carry their essentials in books in like this cute canvas tote bag by Kate Spade. It's fairly reliable despite how lightweight it is and that's always a great sign. It also has an interior pocket to store small essentials like gum, pens, and more.

For a Kate Spade design, the $28 price tag feels like a steal!

Papier "The Little Things" Reading Journal

Your solo book club isn't complete with a reading journal! You'll be able to review 32 books with plenty of space to write as many details per review. You'll also be able to write down your TBR list on 8 different pages, document the books you've borrowed or let others read, and answer journal prompts.

I almost forgot but the team at Papier has also included their book recommendations in it! I feel like this is one of the most thorough reading journals I've come across.

It's currently in-stock for $38.

Mystery Book Owl Blind Date With a Book

Do you know a mom who loves books and wouldn't mind being surprised because she received a mystery read? She'll love this gift by Mystery Book Owl Blind Date With a Book. Each package comes wrapped with an external pocket that has a space for your pen, a reading log, stickers, and more.

You'll be able to pick the genre for her and the rest will be history as they say!

Gifts For Mother's Day That Wine Lover Will Savor

Sophie James Wine Co Sparkling Estate Rosé of Pinot Noir

It's wine. Of course your wine drinking mom friend will love this sparkling rosé! It's perfect for the mom who appreciates women owned businesses that are sustainable and are 100% organic! She'll immediately smell sweet blends of white strawberry and white flowers that have a hint of mandarin peel along with briche. And the texture? You can bet she'll thoroughly enjoy that too!

The Bamboo Abode Pink Wine Glasses Gift Set

Keep the pink theme going with The Bamboo Abode's pink wine glasses to complement your rosé wine bottle. You'll get a gold metal wine opener as well as wine stoppers to keep your wine stored in style. And what's wine and cute wine glasses without a charcuterie board set to go along with it?

YETI Wine Chiller

Okay, the wine lover's gifts for Mother's Day aren't complete with a wine cooler! The mom you gift this too will probably giggle heartily when she realizes you're keeping her love for wine in mind. Don't be surprised when she brings it along during your next brunch picnic!

Gifts For Mother's Day That The Beauty-Obsessed Will Reach For Daily

Kosas Wet Lip Trio

I'm biased so Kosas stays on my radar with their skincare-driven makeup products. I've even shared the brand with my older sister because we tend to swap beauty finds with each other. If you have a similar relationship with you sister, be sure to buy this lip gloss trio for her.

They're full of moisturizing hyaluronic acid, lip-plumping peptides, and evening primrose oil that protects lips from icky environmental smog. Trust me, your sister will have a hard time choosing which shades are her favorite because all of them work well on any complexion.

Get this limited edition trio for $59 at Kosas!

Peter Thomas Roth 24K Gold Pure Luxury Lift & Firm Hydra-Gel Eye Patches

We're in our eye patches eras ladies and that means the beauty-obsessed mom in your life probably is too. I'm a fan of Peter Thomas Roth's products because he understands that one's skincare routine should feel luxuriating. His Hydra-Gel Eye Patches are infused with real 24K Gold and Colloidal Gold to help improve the under eye area, but that's not all!

They're great for all skin types and are anti-aging as well. Basically they're the top tier beauty products that a mom needs if she's been dealing with a few sleepless nights lately.

Grab a pack of 30 for $75!

Sonäge Skincare Bare Essentials Duo

Gift this skincare duo to a mom who's been looking to find her glow again. She'll appreciate the soothing hydration she'll get from the Hydrating Cleanser that easily removes makeup and other debris from her face. Once she follows up wit the Glow To Go Glycolic Acid Peel Pads, her skin will feel nice and exfoliated. The pads also treat large pores and dark spots so if she's been looking to heal her hyperpigmentation, do her a big favor please!

You'll spend less than $75 when you buy this duo from Sonäge Skincare!

Dermstore Supergoop! Unseen Sunscreen Mineral SPF 40

There's a reason why this sunscreen keeps making rounds! It's literally the best sunshine protection you'll get in a bottle and it's universal. It has a weightless, cloud-like formula that doesn't feel tough to rub into the skin and it works well for those with really sensitive skin. If the mom in your life who can't seem to find a good sunscreen or primer is like me, she'll appreciate that this sunscreen doubles as both.

Let's give a huge shout out to the bamboo extract found in this amazing bottle.

Mermade Hair 1.25" OG Waver

Tell your mom friend that her favorite hair curler has met it's match with Mermade Hair's OG Waver. It's designed specifically for those who are looking for a boost of curls and volumes that they usually have a hard time achieving. Since summer is right around the corner, this is a perfect Mother's Day gift for the mom you know will be going on vacation soon. She'll get effortlessly beachy and glam curls that'll completely the shag hairstyles she's been eyeing.

And get this — it's celebrity hairstylist-approved for $79.

KORA Organics x Bumpsuit Moment for Motherhood Kit

I strongly believe that moms are deserving of me time no matter if they work full-time or stay at home with their kids. Luckily, KORA Organics has teamed up with Bumpsuit to help make that time a little more relaxing. Specially picked by Miranda Kerr and Nicole Trunfio, this motherhood kit includes the Noni Glow Sleeping Mask, Noni Glow Body Oil, and Bumpsuit Cloud Robe.

By gifting the beauty-obsessed mom in your life this motherhood kit, you'll be happy to know that KORA Organics is donating 5% of your purchase to Baby2Baby!

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Amanda Montell Knows You're Overthinking Because She Is Too

If Emma Watson's book clubwere still active, she'd definitely have one of Amanda Montell's books on her list. After all, she penned Wordslut and Cultish— two compelling titles about reclaiming the English language from a feminist's POV and understanding why TF cults exist. She's not afraid to be curious about human nature and even helps readers understand things in a way that's a far cry from mansplaining. Simply put: Amanda Montell is as relatable as she is clever.

Did we mention she's also got a natural sense of humor? It's like she knows how to engage with people without changing who she is and what she believes in — two very rare things in the age of social media. Had we known any better, we would've included her on our list of inspirational women to pay attention to last year. But, there's no time like the present to honor her brilliance and celebrate the debut of her third novel The Age of Magical Overthinking.

The title alone drew us in and made us want to get to the bottom of our own battle with overthinking. It's partially why Amanda Montell wrote about it. Her other reason? Well, she's got a close relationship with overanalyzing things too. What better way to understand your own habit than to write about it and share your findings with the public?

Just think of her as your new bestie who's just as happy to talk about summer bucket lists as she is to break down things like cognitive bias or the halo effect 😉.

B+C: Why do you think so many of us are overthinking things, especially in the age of modern social media?

Amanda Montell: I decided to title the book The Age of Magical Overthinking because I couldn't help but notice that there just seems to be an inexplicable, excessive [amount of] delulu in the culture despite the fact we're living in the so-called information age. Everything from people with Master's degrees basing their genuine decisions on astrology to, you know, my neighbors opting not to get the Covid vaccine because a TikToker — a like, white girlie with a Bindi — told them it would downgrade their DNA.

Stuff like that didn't seem to check out for me, especially since we're ostensibly living in a time when you can fact check anything with the click of a button. I was like, 'What is going on here,' and as it turns out, what is going on is this innate clash between our innate decision-making shortcuts — the processes by which we always jump to conclusions in order to make quick decisions to make sense of the world enough to survive it. There's a clash between those age old decision-making methods called cognitive biases and the information age in a way that is ending up pretty explosive for society at large...and is causing us a great deal of existential pain.

So, magical thinking — or the idea that our internal thoughts can affect external events — is a human quirk that has been around since the dawn of our species. But I think overthinking is really a product of the modern age or result of this capitalistic pressure to be right about everything under the sun...

B+C: How do you think this is impacting the way we interact with each other?

Amanda Montell: There's a lot going on. We need to interact in person in order to have empathy...to establish the social glue that keeps us from getting into extremely fraud and sometimes violent ideological conflict. I think there's the idea that the internet is causing ideological rifts to widen and I think in a way that's true, but what's more problematic is the fact we are engaging in social discourse in a medium that prevents that empathy from holding us together.

I think almost everyone can relate to the experience of receiving a curt email from a boss or receiving a salty Instagram comment that sends us into fight or flight. We're responding to non-threats — these sort of abstract disagreements or fake problems — that we're projecting panic onto.

B+C: Can you break down the halo effect for our readers?

Amanda Montell: It was so much fun to explore this particular cognitive bias early in the book because I felt like it really would set up the whole thesis of it quite well. Basically the halo effect is this penchant admire one quality in a person — their fashion sense, their intelligence, the way they blend an oat milk latte — and then assume they must be perfect overall. This halo effect connects to the ways ancient humans used to find role models for survival purposes in our communities.

Ages ago, you used to clock someone in your small village with big muscles...and figure, 'Oh they must be a skilled hunter or they've avoided disfigurement from battle. I would love to align myself with this person for survival,' even though you're jumping to conclusions about them. Their big muscles might not necessarily indicate that they're skilled in battle or they're a good hunter, but it's an efficient enough decision to make.

We're not mapping that conclusion jumping onto modern parasocial relationships. We see a pop star whose music we really connect to and assume they must be educated, worldly, nurturing, they're political beliefs align with ours in this particular time when we're losing so much trust in the government...Basically since the Regan era — our first celebrity President — celebrities have really started swerving into other aspects of life (spiritual, political, etc.,)...

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B+C: What are some some of the things you're currently obsessing over?

Amanda Montell: That's so funny you asked that because on this new podcast — The Magical Overthinkers — I also am opening every episode by asking 'What's an irrational thought spiral that's living rent-free in your head?'

I am totally overthinking my book tour outfits right now. Speaking of consumerism as like a distracting or numbing exercise, launching a book is very stressful and the one thing that made me feel some sense of relief is just shopping for cute outfits. I've been buying a lot of plaid skirt suits. The vibe is definitely 90s nostalgic, a little dark academia meets cochette.

B+C: If you were to give yourself five days to unplug from social media, how would you spend your time?

Amanda Montell: Great question. You know what? I'm setting up a week like this for myself in May after the book tour stuff dies down. After my last book Cultish came out, I was unwell in the mind. I felt so exposed and so fragile. I was like, 'I need to send myself on some kind of retreat,' so I sent myself on this little solo excursion to the Blue Ridge Mountains of Western North Carolina and it was so healing...I went and lived in an Airstream for a couple of days. I was doing nature walks and lying in a hammock journaling...

The Age of Magical Overthinking

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Cami Mendes Just Proved Rosette Dresses Are The Prettiest Spring Trend

Camila Mendes rocked the Met Gala red carpet with her sequined rosette dress, reminding me that this floral trend is still in full bloom. We've seen rosettes pop up here and there over the last year with the soft girland coquettetrends, but now rosettes are an entire moment of their own. Cami definitely crushed this trend, with the petals flowing down the length of her dress, giving her a delicate draped look. But rosette styles — a rosette dresses in particular — aren't one-size-fits all. Like their literal flower counterparts, a rosette dress can take many forms. From more structural accents to flowing flowers, there's truly something for everyone! Here are 17 ways you can style your own rosette dress moment á la Cami!

Shop The Rosette Dress Trend Here!

Bernadette Henry Chiffon Rosette Mini Dress

These off-the-shoulder sleeves and the dainty length really make this dress something special! Plus, it honestly feels the closest to Cami's actual look, given the draping and rosette placement.

BHLDN Rosette Halter Tulle Shift Mini Dress

The second closest to Cami's look, this rosette dress has all the halter top realness you could ask for! I'm really into this lilac color and the pleating — especially for a sweet happy hour-to-dinner night out with your girlfriends!

By Anthropologie Silky Rosette Tunic Top

Nothing says coquette like a slinky little silk nighty! I love this dress for a summer night out!

Fore Rosette One Shoulder Mini Dress

I think the hip rosette would somehow get in my way if I tried to wear this dress, but it looks SO cute for people more coordinated than I!

Edikted Thalia Rosette Ruffle Strapless Minidress

Powder blue is really having a moment, and I can't get enough of it here! The way the fabric just hangs off the rosette is such a delicate detail.

Nia Rosalie Dress

This rosette dress is perfect for your bachelorette party, TBH! Throw it on before your night out with the girls and dance the night away!

Adalynn Knit Two Piece

Though it's technically not a dress, this two piece is sooooo fun for summer! It's giving Cool Girl Goes To Dinner On Vacation.

Princess Polly Lorello Mini Dress Red

The red trend isn't going anywhere any time soon, and to nobody's surprise — it pairs perfectly with rosettes. This is THE Hot Girl Summer dress for sure.

Elliatt Trompe Dress

Barbie does rosettes! Well, not actually – Elliatt does rosettes here, but I'd like to think Barbie would love it. The floral bunches in three corners of this dress are really sweet here, too!

Atoir Déjú Vu Crop Top and Skirt Set

Another Hot Girl moment with this Atoir set (again, I know it's not exactly a dress)! This strappy little number will have everyone asking for your actual number in no time!

Abercrombie One-Shoulder Rosette Trapeze Mini Dress

The Abercrombie renaissance continues to win big with this rosette dress! I love the two-tiered skirt and the one-shouldered rosette strap.

Mango Ruffle Floral Print Dress

The rosettes on this dress from Mango are printed on, rather than the floral appliques we've seen so much of here. Definitely a unique take on this trend!

BHLDN Annie Rosette Mini Dress

It may be a bridal dress, but that doesn't mean that's all it's good for! While this is totally perfect for all your bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and even wedding needs, I can definitely see this slaying way after "I do" too!

Hutch Sleeveless Rosette Romper

I'm absolutely obsessed with how much this Hutch romper looks like a straight-up dress. The rosette straps are just the cherry — er, flowers — on top!

Endless Rose Corsage Rosette Minidress

A shift dress is always a classic silhouette to stash in your closet, and this Endless Rose option is far from boring! Adorned with a handful of chunkier rosettes, this mod-esque dress is everything.

Staud Delilah Rosette Satin Minidress

Another slinkier option, the Staud Delilah Rosette Satin Minidress is chic and sexy. Pull it out for your next date night and see how your partner reacts!

Rare London Rosette Detail Asymmetric Cocktail Dress

And for my final trick, I give you this dress: 💃. While I'm only slightly kidding, I love the front hip placement of the gathered rosette and the movement of the high-low slit.

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"Bridgerton" Star Phoebe Dynevor’s Spring Makeup Look Is Super Easy To Replicate

The Met Gala is known for its amazing red carpet looks, but I pay just as much attention to the beauty. These final makeup looks are just as beautiful as the fashion, and fresh-faced, glowy beauty is EVERYWHERE. Bridgerton star Phoebe Dynevor showed up to the Met Gala wearing a face full of Charlotte Tilbury makeup (done by Sofia Tilbury!), and, TBH, I want to shop every single product. Keep reading for the full scoop!

Recreate Phoebe Dynevor's Charlotte Tilbury Makeup Look

Charlotte Tilbury Mini Charlotte's Magic Cream

Start off your makeup routine by ensuring your skin is glowy on its own! This magic cream features hyaluronic acid (without any of the sulfates you might be worried about) for a hydrating effect you'll love.

No matter whether you have normal or dry skin, this magic cream works to reduce fine lines and give you a lit-from-within glow.

Magic Serum Crystal Elixir

Your skin will absolutely drink up this serum because not only does it feature Vitamin C, but it's also got the super-hydrating Polyglutamic Acid.

The Charlotte Tilbury Crystal Elixir will increase your skin's hydration by 172 percent in 60 minutes, and will make your skin firmer and more elastic!

Charlotte Tilbury Magic Body Cream

Glitter like the diamond of the season yourself with this Magic Body Cream. The vegan formula features hyaluronic acid, Vitamin C, and caffeine.

Beautiful Skin Medium Coverage Liquid Foundation with Hyaluronic Acid

The secret to incredible makeup might just be using products infused with skincare ingredients. This foundation uses the benefits of hyaluronic acid to give you a natural glow.

The medium finish lasts for 16 hours AND it hydrates, smoothes, blurs, and brightens. Talk about a multi functioning product.

Airbrush Flawless Finish Setting Powder

Setting powder should be the perfect final touch — it shouldn't make you look cakey. This Charlotte Tilbury pick is a pressed powder instead of a loose powder, which gives you way more control over how much you use.

Charlotte Tilbury Matte Beauty Blush Wand

Blushes can make or break your makeup, and for Phoebe Dynevor's Met Gala red carpet look, this blush beauty wand was the cherry on top of the look.
It's matte, but this blush still makes you look glowy and natural, rather than painted-up. Plus, it's cruelty-free and vegan!

Pillow Talk Multi-Glow

Get the glow of your dreams with this highlighter that has finely milled pearls, mica, and oil for the smoothest application ever.

Charlotte Tilbury Brow Cheat Refillable Hair-Like Eyebrow Pencil

This micro-precision tool lets you fill in your brows with hair-like strokes that won't make them blocky or unnatural. There are plenty of shades to match a variety of hair colors, and you don't have to worry about ashy undertones.

The long-wearing formula also means your brows won't fade over time. But the best part is that since this Charlotte Tilbury product can be refilled, it's more sustainable!

Charlotte Tilbury Super Nudes Easy Eyeshadow Palette

Nothing says understated glam like a nude eyeshadow look, and there are so many shades in this palette that you can create an endless amount of eye looks! My favorite combo is the brown, champagne, and gold, but the warmer tones are the perfect transition to summertime.

Pillow Talk Push Up Lashes Mascara

The best thing about this Charlotte Tilbury mascara is that it's both lengthening AND volumizing, which work together for your fullest lashes yet.
Even though the lash-lifting polymers are strong, there are no parabens or sulfates.

Charlotte Tilbury Matte Revolution Hydrating Lipstick

Hydrating lipstick that's also matte sounds too good to be true, but this pick proves it can be done! It's long wearing for all your date nights, GNO's, and movie marathons, and it's vegan, cruelty-free, and paraben-free.

Let us know your favorite spring makeup trend in the comments!

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