By now, we鈥檙e stating the obvious when we say Zendaya gives the realist advice. The 18-year-old singer, actress and now shoe designer is also becoming famous for her thoughtful declarations and take-the-higher-road responses to nasty comments directed at her style and beauty, which in our eyes, have always been on point. At BeautyCon LA this past weekend, Zendaya took a break from her newest music project to sit down with Editor in Chief of Yahoo Style, Joe Zee and actress Olivia Culpo for an intimate talk about how to deal with haters and staying true to you. Naturally, she slayed, tossing out life, style and beauty tips made for #MotivationMonday all while keeping things totally real. In other words, these are words to live by (+ major #preach moments) ahead.

1. We all have the power to help each other: For Zendaya, tweeting, 鈥榞ramming and FB-ing comes with the same small social courtesies we do for each other IRL, like holding the door open for your busy co-worker or giving up your seat on the bus to someone who maybe *hasn鈥檛* been sitting behind a desk for the last eight hours. 鈥淲ith social media, for me, with great power comes great responsibility, and if you think about it, all of us have so much power at our fingertips. We literally have access to the World Wide Web 鈥 we can contact whoever we want, we can say whatever we want and it鈥檚 out for millions and millions of people to see. For me, I feel responsible to use that power to send good messages and positive things, to empower other women to say 鈥Hey girl, you look good today.鈥 So I feel like it鈥檚 so important to help each other,鈥 she said. 鈥淢y stance is to not just leverage it for myself, for selfish reasons, but for things I鈥檓 passionate about.鈥

2. It鈥檚 okay to not follow trends: Where exactly does Zendaya get outfit inspo? 鈥淚 admire people who just do what they want to do, that either have created their own style or go against the grain. There鈥檚 people [like], say, Solange, that has created her own style and she has her own thing. It鈥檚 like, 鈥極oh, that鈥檚 a Solange look鈥 鈥 you know what that looks like. Then there鈥檚 people that like to just do whatever and I鈥檓 one of those people who like to try different things. Especially when you鈥檙e young, it鈥檚 okay to experiment and to not be poppin鈥 all the time and not have a cute day like, okay so you tried it, it didn鈥檛 work out, try something else. That鈥檚 what I think is so important for fashion, to explore and find out who you are.鈥

3. Take fashion risks to switch up your image: Labels like are hard to shake off as you grow up, especially when that label is 鈥淒isney Channel Star.鈥 For Zendaya, updating her image meant taking risks to get people to see her as less of a Mouseketeer and more of an individual. 鈥淚t鈥檚 been a long process just getting people to see me in a different light. Especially when you鈥檙e a Disney star it鈥檚 like, 鈥楾hat鈥 girl from Shake It Up? I don鈥檛 want her in my dress!鈥 So you gotta build. That鈥檚 why I started taking fashion risks, and I was like 鈥極h, you don鈥檛 see me like this, you鈥檙e gonna see me like this now!鈥 So you experiment and you keep trying and eventually my stylist and I, we broke down a lot of doors,鈥 she said. 鈥淚t鈥檚 all growth and a process and it鈥檚 fun at the end of the day. I have a lot of fun doing it.鈥

4. Beauty should be super relatable: Don鈥檛 expect Zendaya to ever stick to a signature beauty look, and for good reason. 鈥淚 feel like I have a responsibility to showcase more than one type of beauty. When I鈥檓 on a red carpet, I want a girl to be like, 鈥榊o, I have hair like that!鈥 or say 鈥楾hat鈥檚 cool!鈥欌

5. There are positive ways to deal with online haters without responding: Trolls suck. Cyberbullies are horrible. Comments can be mean (really mean), but Zendaya knows how to rise above. 鈥淭here are many ways to deal with the hate, you can let it absorb and consume you or you can learn how to deal with it in the right ways. 鈥淵ou have to learn how to love yourself. so anything that anyone says, you just have so much love 鈥 like you鈥檙e in love with yourself so much that you鈥檙e like, 鈥業鈥檓 good, I鈥檓 really good.鈥 And then you begin to grow and find passion for anyone behind the computer screen 鈥榗ause you gotta realize, I don鈥檛 know those people, I don鈥檛 know what you鈥檙e going through, I don鈥檛 know your life. Literally commenting and saying something mean to me could have been the best thing that happened to you all day. So have compassion and almost empathy for whoever鈥檚 behind that screen and it doesn鈥檛 hurt you as much.鈥

6. But don鈥檛 be afraid of your voice: When push comes to shove, Zendaya has a gameplan for responding to haters. 鈥淚 don鈥檛 respond that all much but every now and then I think, 鈥榠t鈥檚 okay, now I can respond, now I can say something鈥 I鈥檓 not trying to be a hero or anything I just don鈥檛 think it鈥檚 fair I don鈥檛 think it鈥檚 cool, but I say it in a way that鈥檚 like 鈥榟ahaha but you won鈥檛 do it again.鈥 So you gotta do it in a way so nobody鈥檚 feelings are hurt but you got the point,鈥 she said. 鈥淎nd it鈥檚 about using your knowledge and taking the time. If it鈥檚 something that really hurt you and it鈥檚 something that you think other people are affected by, don鈥檛 be afraid of your voice. But make sure you do it in the right way. Don鈥檛 be ignorant or don鈥檛 just slander or drag somebody. Take your time, create an educated response, say something that makes sense hopefully to enlighten or educate that person instead of just to beat them down.鈥

7. Surround yourself with 鈥渘o鈥 guys to stay grounded: Sure your besties have your back, but according to Zendaya, the best kind of support system includes peops who love you for who you are and who can call you out when you鈥檙e being a diva. 鈥淎 lot of people have a lot of 鈥榶es鈥 men, and not a lot of 鈥榥o鈥 men, you know, people to tell you 鈥楴o, that鈥檚 not cool鈥 or 鈥楬ey, you need to cut it out,鈥 Trust me, I have plenty of 鈥榥o鈥 men.鈥

8. Be nice to everyone: We鈥檙e constantly meeting people, through friends, through work, through Tinder, but regardless if you鈥檙e bound to become bffs or you two just don鈥檛 click, Zendaya says she checks her 鈥榯ude at the door. 鈥淚 like to be kind. I don鈥檛 ever want anyone to have a bad taste in their mouth from me. I want everyone to leave like, 鈥榊o, she was nice.鈥欌

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