How to Support a Loved One When They Come Out As LGBTQ+

About this time two years ago, one of my closest friends came out to me as transgender. When she told me, I didn’t know much about what being transgender meant. I had never learned about gender or sexuality at school, and no one close to me had ever come out to me before. I wanted to make sure my house was a safe place for her as her family struggled to adjust to her new gender identity, and I made sure my family knew my friend’s new gender pronouns — “her” and “she.” I used her new name every time I talked about her so that my family got used to it, and did extensive research on gender and sexuality. As I learned, I realized how much my friend inspired me. Little did I know that my new understanding would come in handy much closer to home.

About six months after my friend came out, my best friend and youngest sibling, Van, came out as pansexual and non-binary at the age of 13. “Pansexual” is a sexual orientation that’s not limited to biological sex, gender, or gender identity. It’s kind of like bisexuality, but goes beyond “men” and “women.” Non-binary is a category for gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine. Since Van doesn’t really feel male or female, Van’s pronouns are “them” and “they.”

Being Van’s older sister changed the way I view the world, and seeing the obstacles they are faced with has made me want to help change the way other people view sexuality and gender. I’ve become a more compassionate, understanding, and knowledgeable friend, and I give Van a lot of the credit for the advice I’m about to give. It was during one of our heart-to-heart conversations that we realized that there’s a need for people close to LGBTQ+ people to understand how they can support those they love.

Looking back, there are a lot of other things I wish I had said to my friend and to Van when they opened up to me. But in the time since, here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Don’t make it about you. When someone comes out to you, it may or may not come as a surprise. If it doesn’t come as a surprise, don’t say things like, “I knew it!” or otherwise make the conversation about yourself. Right now it’s important to listen and support this person, so let them have the floor and finish what they have to say.

If the news comes as a surprise to you or conflicts with your religious beliefs, keep that to yourself for now. There will be time for you to process the information later, and you can both discuss and share beliefs when you are ready. Through my meaningful and open-minded discussions with Van, I have found that sharing beliefs with your loved one can allow you both to expand your horizons and grow closer together. But with that in mind, don’t forget to be respectful of your loved one’s privacy. Don’t disclose any information that your loved one asks you to keep to yourself. And most importantly, DON’T push them to come out to other people; it is up to them to decide when they are ready, not you.

2. Don’t make it a big deal. After someone comes out to you, thank that person for telling you and trusting you. Know that coming out is a difficult thing to do and that it takes a lot of courage. Keep in mind that this person needs your support now more than they likely have before.

Coming out is scary, especially if an LGBTQ+ individual lives in a LGBTQ+ -unfriendly environment (and especially in our current climate). While it is good to acknowledge what a big step it is to come out, try not to be dramatic about it. Let your loved one set the tone of the conversation, and DON’T question their sexuality or gender. Questioning if someone is really LGBTQ+ or not will only hurt that person. Remember that when someone comes out, it’s likely they’ve thought about sharing this information for years — probably most of their life.

Like Van, who was just a young teen when they came out, most LGBTQ+ individuals have gone through difficult struggles with their identity and done endless amounts of research in an attempt to understand themselves. Realize that gender and sexuality are experienced differently by everyone, and that that’s okay. Some people experience gender and sexuality as fluid, while for others the experience is more fixed and definite.

Also consider that sometimes LGBTQ+ individuals will have tried to fit themselves into heterosexual/binary roles in the past in an attempt to fit in (or for their very safety), and it may seem confusing to have to alter your thinking afterwards. Some people may still seem to fit into these roles after coming out; remember that some people experience gender and sexuality fluidly, and that that those experiences can change throughout time. Either way, respect your loved one’s identity, sexuality, and gender, and don’t make the mistake of thinking that you know more about them than they do themselves.

3. See them for who they are, but don’t change how you treat them. Coming out does not change who a person is. Sexual orientation and gender do not really define anyone; rather, those things are only a part of who a person is. The only real difference between before and after coming out is that afterwards, an individual is more free to be themselves and accepted for who they really are. Remember this, and don’t change the way you act toward this person.

Since Van came out, we have grown closer than we ever were before. We still have our old inside jokes (and even some new ones), and of course, Van still reads fan fiction 24/7, loves anime, and sleeps in a room with walls covered in art. Van has the same loving personality that they have always had and we have the best time snuggling, laughing, and being silly when we are together.

Also, keep in mind that you might not always get it right. Using the correct names and gender pronouns is SO important, but it’s totally normal to say the wrong name or pronoun when you’re just getting used to your loved one’s newly public identity. Mistakes mean you are trying; DON’T make your person feel uncomfortable by overly apologizing. Acknowledge the mistake and move on!

4. Be there. If an LGBTQ+ individual lives in an unsupportive community or environment, it is likely that they’ve received negative comments or messages that made them feel badly about themselves — and, likely, afraid for their safety. Make sure you always stand up for the people you care about, and try to de-escalate any stressful situations. Try to reach out to them when you can, and remind them that you are there always for anything they might need.

Van knows that I’m only a phone call or text away, and that I am always here to listen and support with their best interest in mind. I encourage Van to do the things they love, and make sure I am at every big event in their life, cheering them on. My partner and I spend a lot of time with Van, and have even started going to rallies and walks in support of LGBTQ+ organizations.

Respect your loved one’s needs. On their bad days, Van sometimes doesn’t feel like talking. On these days we sit and cuddle, both on our phones or watching a show together. We don’t always have to talk, and on bad days it can help just to have someone close.

5.If you don’t know, ask! You might have some questions about your loved one’s sexuality or gender, and that’s okay. It is important to always communicate with the people you care about, and this includes asking questions you might have. But be careful not to bombard your loved one with questions, and definitely don’t single them out by making them your “go-to person” for LGBTQ+-related information, unless that person has said they’re okay with it. Google exists for a reason!

6. Check in often. It is common for LGBTQ+ folks to experience bullying, discrimination, and prejudice, and mental health conditions like anxiety and depression are an unfortunately common result. Frequently check in with your loved one about how they are feeling, and listen to them when they need you to. Show them that what they think and feel matters to you, and if they don’t feel comfortable talking you about certain things, offer to help them find a good LGBTQ+ therapist that they can talk to.

Some transgender individuals choose to undergo hormone replacement therapy or to change their names on legal documents. You can offer to help them research these processes. Taking on tasks like this can be hugely helpful, but only when your help is wanted — don’t be overbearing.

Since we live apart, I text Van at least once a day to see how they are doing. When Van is having a bad day I might only get a short reply — if I get one at all. This used to make me anxious, but I have since learned that it isn’t personal. All it means is that Van doesn’t have the energy to talk in that moment. Respect your loved one’s needs, and follow their cues.

7. It is never too late. If you regret your reaction to someone coming out, it’s NEVER too late to apologize and try to start again. You are only human; don’t beat yourself up for not getting things right the first time. No matter what, the most important thing is to do your best to show this person that you care. The rest will come with time.

For more information on LGBTQ+ related issues, visit:

https://lgbt.foundation/

https://lgbtchat.net/

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Romance reality TV is probably one of the best sectors of the entertainment universe, at least if you ask us. We love our Bachelor nation binge watches and live for our daily Love Island recaps. Watching people fall in love is so, so cute…and more often than not these relationships spill out of our screens and into the real world, where we’re able to keep up with all of our favorite reality stars à la social media. Such is the case for Gabby Windey — former Bachelor contestant and half of The Bachelorette’s starring Season 19 duo — who *just* came out as queer and revealed that she’s been dating comedian and writer Robby Hoffman for three months. Please excuse us while we squeal in excitement for her!

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On Wednesday, Gabby appeared on The View to share a mysterious update about her dating life. “I have been seeing someone for a couple months,” she said. “And I’ve been keeping it a little private because it is a bigger story and a bigger conversation. Because I’m dating a girl.” She continued, explaining to the speechless (and rather stiff) hosts that her queerness “was always a whisper in me that just got louder and louder” and she “had to navigate through the shame” she’d internalized before coming out. “I don’t want to live and not be living my full truth,” she commented.

Following her announcement, Gabby shared a series of pictures to Instagram with her big news, featuring her girlfriend Robby. “Told you I’m a girls girl!!” she humorously captioned the post. She went on to share an adorable video of her running up to Robby and kissing her post-The View, and it’s safe to say we’re ecstatic for her.

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Robby also shared her own pictures of Gabby to Instagram, tagging her in the comments.

Gabby was a finalist on Clayton Echard’s season of The Bachelor in 2022. She proceeded to co-star in her own season of The Bachelorette alongside Rachel Recchia, getting engaged to Erich Schwer last May after meeting him on her season. Gabby and Erich called off their engagement last November, and she seems to have started seeing Robby a few months later.

We should note that Gabby isn’t the first Bachelor Nation contestant to come out as queer, either. Becca Tilley, who was casted in Seasons 19 and 20 of The Bachelor has been dating pop singer Hayley Kiyoko for five years, sharing her sexuality with the world in 2022. Colton Underwood, another lead in the franchise, also came out as gay in 2021, not to the surprise of comedian and actor Billy Eichner (IYKYK).

The Bachelor franchise has historically been solely focused on heterosexual relationships, only deviating from the norm in Australia. In 2021, The BacheloretteAustralia lead Brooke Blurton became the first openly bisexual lead in the franchise, hosting both men and women in the Bachelor Mansion.

TBH, we’d love to see more representation in The Bachelor franchise. Love is love — and we want to see it all on our screens!

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Pride *should* be a year-long celebration, whether you're part of the LGBTQIA+ community or not. Empowering everyone to be comfortable in their identities forms a more understanding and joyful world for us, so bringing advocacy past the month of June is pretty important.

With companies launching pride-focused collections during June each year, it can be hard to know which ones are *actually* supporting the proper causes, and living up to their pride missions. These 10 pride collections are totally committed to the community.

Coolhaus.

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Take pride in your identity, allyship, or general love for sweets with Coolhaus.

This pride season, the LGBTQIA+-founded ice cream company is launching a limited-edition 'Love Out Loud' ice cream sammie, and in celebration, is donating $25,000 towards GLAAD's mission of accelerating acceptance for the LGBTQIA+ community.

Baggu x House Wine

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Bag brand, Baggu, and canned wine creators, House Wine, released a collaborative Pride Pack for this year's pride season.

House Wine has proudly supported the Human Rights Campaign throughout their tenure as a business, and continue to do so with this pack built with a reusable bag, House Wine Rainbow Cans, and assorted stickers.

For every Pride Pack purchased, House Wine will donate $2 to HRC, further advocating for their mission of equality for the LGBTQIA+ community.

The North Face

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The North Face is embracing finding connection in nature for the queer community, and their extensive pride collection features colorful shirts, shorts, hoodies, tanks, shoes, and more outdoorsy accessories.

"Each one of us is a reflection of the glittery, messy, beautiful diversity that is Mother Earth," their site reads. "This pride, we celebrate the transformational power of finding our runway in the outdoors together."

What's even better about their collection is it isn't relegated to June only. The North Face supports queer-serving organizations like Brave Trails and YouthSeen year-round.

Bombas

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Each sock and underwear purchase from Bombas' pride collection gives back to organizations supporting people facing homelessness, *especially* those part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

According to True Colors United, young queer people are 120% more likely to experience homelessness than their non-LGBTQIA+ peers – and 40% of homeless youth belong to the community.

Bombas is reaching their fifth year in partnership with the Ruth Ellis Center in Detroit, which offers homeless, LGBTQIA+ young people a safe, accepting space – and this year's "Let Everyone Know" pride sock and underwear collection was designed in collaboration with the center to give back.

Noodles & Company

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Beloved noodle chain, Noodles & Company, is bringing back the ultra-tasty Pride Crispy – a rainbow-laden, fan-favorite rice crispy treat that satisfies sweet cravings, but *also* gives back to the LGBTQIA+ community.

For the third year in a row, Noodles & Co. is pledging 100% of proceeds from Pride Crispy sales (up to $30K) to Out & Equal, who advocates exclusively for LGBTQIA+ workplace equality.

The Crispy will be available to pair with your favorite noodle bowl through the month of June!

Dr. Martens

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Widely considered a boot for the community, Dr. Martens is bringing a pride-inspired design to you in collaboration with Japanese artist, illustrator, and zine creator, Fuyuki Kanai. The pride boot is adorned in illustrations that recall "inclusivity, community and queer relationships."

Though the retailer released this boot for the month of June, Dr. Martens maintains a year-round partnership with The Trevor Project, he world's largest suicide prevention and crisis intervention organization for LGBTQIA+ youth. This year, they're pledging $200,000 to the org.

Adidas x Rich Mnisi

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Adidas believes that sports can change lives, but love can make an even *greater* impact.

The company designed their 2023 pride collection in collaboration with South African designer, Rich Mnisi to further promote the message that love unites.

Inspired by a childhood poem of Mnisi's called "Let Love Be Your Legacy," the sportswear collection "embodies a shared ambition to encourage allyship and expression without bias, in all spaces across sport and culture."

The brand also tapped Adidas partners, Tom Daley, Jari Jones, and organization Athlete Ally to publish passionate love letters to sports as a whole, in effort to uplift all LGBTQIA+ members involved with sports.

Abercrombie & Fitch

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Regardless of the sales they make this year, longstanding fashion retailer Abercrombie & Fitchis committing $400,000 to The Trevor Project. Their most recent pride collectionsurrounds a "proud year-round" statement, which is a sentiment we can get behind.

The ready-to-wear pieces in the collection include everything from polo tees, matching sets, activewear, swimsuits, skirts, and more.

Converse Proud To Be

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This season's pride collection from Converse celebrates "those who are proud to be living in the power and joy of being themselves." The footwear company teamed up with a handful of members from the queer community to design five different (super cute!) pride-infused sneaker designs available for purchase.

Converse is proud to have pledged close to $2.5M to local, national, and international organizations since their first Pride campaign in 2015. It Gets Better Project, The Ali Forney Center, BAGLY, and The Theater Offensive are all community partners working for the LGBTQIA+ community

NYX Cosmetics

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According to NYX Cosmetics, 64% of LGBTQIA+ gamers have been harassed online at disproportionately higher rates than all other identity groups.

NYX's 2023 pride collection hones in on LGBTQIA+ people in the online gaming space – saying "game over" to the haters, and instead, embracing queer gamers of all identities for who they are. The company teamed up with 5 LGBTQIA+ gamers to amplify their stories in effort to "create awareness for safer spaces in gaming." Each player represents a makeup item for next-level looks!

Furthering their advocacy, NYX's pride campaign surrounds their year-round partnership with the Los Angeles LGBT Center, aiming to amplify queer voices, train allies, and provide donations – over $500,000 has been given globally to support youth support and services.

Barefoot Dreams x (RED)

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Lovers of cozy comfort, Barefoot Dreams, has teamed up with (RED), whose mission is to fight global health emergencies and support equitable access to testing and treatment. We’re here for it! The retailer will give 15% of every purchase of the ultra-soft Barefoot Dreams + (RED) throw blanket ($180) to (RED)’s Global Fund, up to a $100,000 donation in order to help strengthen healthcare systems and support equitable access for everyone.

MiliMili Modern Rainbow Collection x PRONOUN

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MiliMili makes comfortable, yet stylish wearables for you and your little ones. This year, their Modern Rainbow collection is standing up for pride. Made in collaboration with Justin Mikita and Jesse Tyler Ferguson, and with a custom print by artist Katie Kaapcke, 100% of the profits from collection sales (which covers everything art prints and crib sheets, to pillowcases and swaddles) go to PRONOUN, Justin and Jesse’s non-profit organization, in support of equality for all.

Mars Wright Pride Collection

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Mars Wright is a Trans artist and activist spreading Trans joy through art. Their pride collection features clothing, prints, and accessories that all advocate for everyone finding that joy, plus a portion of the proceeds from each purchase goes *directly* to the Black Trans community through the Unique Women’s Coalition. There, the UWC dedicates their work to being a collective voice centering around the narratives and needs of Black Trans culture.

Bluebella x girli

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This month, Bluebella, a lingerie, underwear, and nightwear brand, launched their Pride campaign and collection in collaboration with queer British artist, girli. The collection features Bluebella’s top-selling sets – but reimagined in the colors of the rainbow. Each piece is designed to help everyone, no matter their gender expression, feel empowered while celebrating Pride.

10% of the profits from the collaborative collection’s sales will be donated to OutRight International, a human rights organization supporting LGBTQIA+ people around the world.

“Future-focused companies understand the importance of maintaining a strong commitment to supporting human rights for LGBTQ people – one that benefits employees, consumers, and communities alike. That is why Outright International is partnering with Bluebella for a second consecutive year,” said Elise Colomer-Cheadle, Director of Development at Outright International. “By leveraging its platform and brand, Bluebella continues to elevate Outright’s work [of] advocating for the human rights of LGBTQ communities around the world. Through our collaboration, Bluebella extends the reach of Outright’s mission, giving a voice to the voiceless by amplifying the issues impacting LGBTQ people globally. At a time where anti-LGBTIQ movements are mobilizing, we remain deeply grateful to call Bluebella our ally and partner."

Danessa Myricks Beauty Bi-Pride Chrome Flake Eyeshadow

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Danessa Myricks Beauty launched the Bi-Pride Infinite Chrome Flake eyeshadow in honor of the bisexual community. For every purchase of the pinky-purpley blue shiny shade made, Danessa Myricks Beauty will donate 10% of sales to the Audre Lorde Project. The Audre Lorde Project is an NYC-based, member-led community organizing center for queer and Trans people of color. ALP organizes with, for, and in community to build a more just and liberated world.

American Eagle + Olivia Ponton Pride Collection

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This Pride, American Eagle is bringing together a limited-edition Pride collection designed in collaboration with Olivia Ponton. You’ll find rainbow-adorned statement tees, denim shorts, a cap, and tote bag in this collection that gives back. In lieu of this exclusive drop, AE is continuing its charitable partnership with the It Gets Better Project. As the organization’s largest donor in history, AE continues its work by donating $100,000 this year, while also giving customers the opportunity to support the cause through donations during the month of June – online and in-stores.

"I hope that this collection reminds people that they are part of a community that loves and supports who they are," Ponton said.

OUAI

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Hair-care brandOUAI believes everyone is the best version of themselves when living life your OUAI – embracing the core of who you are, and staying true to yourself, despite outside expectations. In honor of Pride 2023, OUAI has pledged a $200,000 donation throughout the month of June to multiple LBGTQIA+ organizations. Each week of June, OUAI will spotlight these various orgs by donating to them directly, and encouraging customers to donate in their own way at checkout.

On June 1-8, OUAI will support The Trevor Project, whose mission is to end suicide among the queer community.

On June 9-15, they’ll spotlight the Ali Forney Center, which helps LGBTQIA+ individuals out of homelessness and promotes independence.

On June 16-22, OUAI will look toward the Los Angeles LGBT Center, working toward total equality.

Finally, during the last week of June, the company will spotlight Strands For Trans, a non-profit on a mission to create more Trans-friendly barbershops and hair salons.

Linktree x Peppermint

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With an increase in hate speech and anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation in the U.S., Linktree is proud to support queer creators and small businesses this Pride. To advocate for the community, the linking platform is leveraging their Tip Jar feature so anyone can virtually tip their favorite Drag performers.

Tipping is already so encouraged in the Drag community, and RuPaul’s Drag Race legend Peppermint knows this. Peppermint is partnering with Linktree this Pride to share their authentic experience as a Drag performer amid the fight for LGBTQIA+ representation and equality.

“As a trans woman and Drag performer, defending our rights from the recent legislative attacks on our community and maintaining the visibility and progress we’ve gained is at the top of that list,” Peppermint said. “Linktree’s work in support of the LGBTQIA+ community, encouraging tipping to my fellow Drag performers is a tangible example of their impact. I’m so excited that it’s now easier than ever to support performers outside of live events. We have to work together to keep our essential art form alive and thriving.”

Chispa Pride

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Chispa, the #1 dating app for Latin singles, continues to support the LGBTQIA+ community this Pride with an all-new virtual sticker collection that users on the platform can utilize in order to show their solidarity and acceptance of the queer community. The profile stickers include an Ally sticker, as well as Trans, Queer, and Non Binary ones.

This addition comes at a time where it’s important to break the stigma behind Latinx sexuality and dating. According to a survey by Chispa, over 60% of Latinx singles reported that they never talked about being LGBTQIA+ while growing up. With this year’s Pride initiative, the platform hopes to continue the conversation surrounding Latinx and queer discrimination.

In addition to the symbolic stickers on the app, Chispa is also contributing a monetary donation to the Latino Equality Alliance. There, the LEA advocates for equity, safety, and wellness of the Latinx LGBTQIA+ community.

YITTY

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YITTYLizzo’s inclusive shapewear brand – is continuing their commitment to theLos Angeles LGBT Center this Pride through their “Every Body’s Gay” campaign. This year’s initiative comes to light with the help of drag entertainers Blackberri, Strawberry Corncakes and Vidalia Anne Gentry, and influencers Chiara Rose, Logan Grayson, Davesha Sowell, and Kristany Jackson.

As they tell their stories to us about what Pride means to them, YITTY has dedicated itself to supporting both the Los Angeles LGBT Center through giving financial contributions *and* sponsoring Trans Pride LA! The Los Angeles LGBT Center provides more LGBTQIA+ services than any other organization in the world, which is why we’re excited to show you this comfy-cozy Pride collection. Shop super soft bra tops, short-shorts, and Pride pins to feel the love all year long.

Krewe

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New Orleans-based opticals brand, Krewe, is connecting with CDFA this June to honor Pride month and support the TransLatin@Coalition through a limited-edition eyewear collection. Being from NOLA, Krewe drew inspiration for the collection knowing that New Orleanians are nothing if not prideful, colorful, loving, and vibrant – this sentiment is reflected in the two specs designs that give back to TransLatin@Coalition, who advocates for the needs of Trans, Gender non-conforming and Intersex individuals.

waterdrop x Conchita Wurst

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Hydration brand, waterdrop, came together for Pride with Conchita Wurst, a LGBTQIA+ advocate and Austrian artist, for a colorful, celebratory collaboration that *also* gives back. 10% of net sales from the collaborative Pride collection will be donated to international LGBTQIA+ organizations Queer Base and Outright International, as waterdrop continues to stand against all forms of discrimination.

Parade x ggggrimes

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Beloved underwear and loungewear powerhouse, Parade, came out with a new limited-edition Pride collection in collaboration with Trans digital artist, Theodoor ggggrimes that’s full of Y2K-inspired pieces and prints. Each sustainable style furthers the brand’s commitment to Pride and aims to highlight the joy-filled freedom that queer people deserve.

“I started Parade to create an alternative to the one-note idea of sexiness that had defined the underwear industry for too long,” said Parade’s CEO, Creative Director and Co-Founder, Cami Téllez. “Theodoor’s work, centering queer and trans people of color in limitless self-expression, love and sexuality is exactly the kind of artistic work the world needs to see more of. We’re so excited to bring our love of color and visions of ultimate freedom to the world through this collection.”

Year-round, Parade gives customers the option to donate 1% of their purchase back to support important causes such as LGBTQIA+ law and policy. In 2023, Parade helped fund 200+ hours of response to legal help inquiries from across the country, including those from incarcerated community members via the Transgender Law Center.

Skittles Pride Collection on Audible

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Your fave colorful candy is moving past the rainbow for Pride this year. Skittles knows that amplifying LGBTQIA+ voices is more important (and challenged) now more than ever, thus their initiative in partnership with Audible was born.

Until the end of July, anyone with a pack of Skittles can listen to *free* collections of queer storytelling on Audible. With a quick QR code scan of the brand’s Pride Packs, fans can access categories like Queer Fiction, Real People, Real Voices, and Audible Theater Originals.

Aside from the listenables, keep an eye out for Skittles Pride Packs on shelves near you – for every pack sold, the candy company will donate $1 to GLAAD (up to a $100,000 amount) in support of their ongoing efforts to combat anti-LGBTQ+ discrimination.

Made by Mary Pride Collection

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Made By Mary’s Pride Collection features a sleek rendition of the Pride flag in jewelry form: a ring and hoop earrings set in gold vermeil or sterling silver boast rainbow-studded inlays that stun with just about any summer look.

For the month of June, 10% of net proceeds from their Pride Collection will be donated to The Trevor Project.

Mavi Jeans "Love Without Rules" Tote Bag

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In partnership with the largest non-profit organization in the country dedicated to LGBTQIA+ youth homelessness, sustainable fashion brand, Mavi Jeans, will be donating 100% of net proceeds from their adorable “Love Without Rules” tote bag to the Ali Forney Center. The brand is “deeply rooted in diversity, individuality, and inclusivity,” and this latest Pride initiative exemplifies that.

"The Ali Forney Center is grateful to again partner with Mavi Jeans and appreciate their commitment to supporting the homeless LGBTQIA+ youth and the programming and services we provide," said Paul Clark, Director of Corporate Engagement at AFC. "The funds raised from Mavi’s Pride tote bags will help us continue our mission of providing resources and support to LGBTQIA+ youth."

LIVELY Pride Capsule

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LIVELY’s curated Pride Capsule features cute undergarments in *all* the colors to help celebrate this year. Because it all starts at the first layer, the brand is highlighting their most loved bras, undies, and loungewear not only in the Pride collection, but also their latest Neon Mesh edit. 10% of proceeds from the comfy Neon Mesh collection will be donated to The Trevor Project throughout the month of June.

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I am the opposite of a casual Reputation fan. Four of my five most-listened-to songs on Spotify are from the 2017 album, I wore a Rep-inspired outfit to my Eras Tour show, and I am constantly analyzing (and talking about) its symbolism. I stand by the fact that this album, as misunderstood as it is, is actually the key to understanding Taylor Swift herself, which is why its rerelease is the one I've been most looking forward to. With TikTok, X (formerly Twitter), and Reddit, it feels like there's a new theory every day about when we'll get Reputation (Taylor's Version), but I'm pretty sure Taylor's been telling us the announcement date the whole time.

When is Taylor Swift releasing Reputation (Taylor's Version)?

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The cappuccino Easter egg from the "Karma" music video.

We don't have an official Reputation (Taylor's Version) release date yet, but all signs were originally pointing to an announcement on February 16, 2024. When the music video for "Karma" from Midnights came out, featuring a shot of Taylor holding a cappuccino, Swifties immediately picked up on the symbolism. The blue nail (which represents 1989 (Taylor's Version)) lines up with the 8 on the clock, and the black nail lines up with the 2 on the clock. Taylor ended up announcing 1989 TV on August 9 — and then announced The Tortured Poets Department(also known as TS11) onstage at the 2024 Grammys in February!

TaylorNation just teased the Reputation (Taylor's Version) release date by hopping on the latest internet trend, which uses the "You wouldn't last an hour in the asylum where they raised me" lyric from "Who's Afraid Of Little Old Me?" Their Instagram carousel features images that have sent Swifties spiraling in the past, but there are two pics I'm paying special attention to: the "five holes in the fence" image from the Lover era, and a "Bejeweled" music video still of Taylor Swift pressing 3 in an elevator. May 3 (5/3) comes two weeks after the TTPD release, and since Taylor has been emphasizing her lead single "Fortnight" with the "For a Fortnight" challenge, it looks like it could line up perfectly.

There are plenty of other potential summer release dates too! Swifties know Taylor Swift lives and breathes the number 13, and that she's been making her recent rerecording announcements at her Eras Tour shows.

Well, this summer, Taylor is heading to Milan for a show on Saturday, July 13. X user @roranotaurora points out that the symbol for Milan is a snake (it's also a symbol for Rep!) AND that on July 13, 1977, there was a blackout across New York City. When Taylor announced the original Reputation in 2017, the "Don't Blame Me" singer blacked out all her social media. If she announced the album in July, there's a good chance we'd get it just in time for autumn, chilly weather, and Daylight Savings Time, all three of which go perfectly with the Reputation aesthetic.

There's another 13 we need to pay attention to as well: December 13, which is also Taylor Swift's birthday. The popstar had the date front and center in her Tortured Poets Department pop-up installation. Since the date falls on a Friday, it's the perfect day to drop some new music...

Are there any other clues that Reputation (Taylor's Version) will come out next?

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Taylor Swift attends the 81st Annual Golden Globe Awards at The Beverly Hilton on January 07, 2024 in Beverly Hills, California.

Recently, Taylor showed up to the 81st Golden Globe Awards in an all green ensemble, which is already so Reputation-coded to begin with. However, fans noticed one teeeeeeeny tiny detail about her look that really leans into all the theories that Rep (TV) is next. If you zoom in on her rings, one of them is a snake that's wrapped around her finger. 🐍

And after Taylor Swift released a video teasing her new album, Swifties are analyzing all the snakeskin patterns (on the curtains, the floor, and the green couch), as well as the dark visuals. While the video moves from the dark room to a bright one for TTPD, I'm convinced we'll be returning — or continuing down the hallway where you can see a dark picture frame waiting for us...

All the surprise songs at her Tokyo Eras Tour shows referenced falling apart, and a huge part of the Reputation era was related to a quote from Taylor that says "when she fell, she fell apart." Before playing "The Outside" as her piano surprise song on February 9, she made a joke that the song was 175 years old — which has Swifties thinking August 2 (175 days from February 9) could be the album's release date. Considering "The Outside" is off her first album, it's also possible we're getting Taylor Swift (Taylor's Version) in August!

A recent Disney+ ad that paired the Eras Tour film and Disney Pixar's Cars went viral on Twitter because its tagline is "Getaway Car," one of the most beloved songs on Reputation (Taylor's Version)! No matter when the album drops, having Taylor Swift's final two re-recordings be her name and her reputation is literally so iconic and I can't wait to listen.

What Taylor Swift songs are on Reputation (Taylor's Version)?

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We know that, based on previous re-recordings, Reputation (Taylor's Version) will have the original tracklist and an unknown number of vault tracks that Taylor wrote ahead of the Reputation era. PEOPLE also confirmed we'll be able to hear Taylor Swift's "Look What You Made Me Do (Taylor's Version)" in the new docuseries for the New England Patriots! You can also hear a snippet in the trailer for Ashley Benson's Wilderness ;). Here's what you can expect on Taylor Swift's Reputation (Taylor's Version). I'm really hoping the vault tracks include "I Don't Want To Live Forever"!

  1. "Ready For It? (Taylor's Version)"
  2. "End Game (Taylor's Version)"
  3. "I Did Something Bad (Taylor's Version)"
  4. "Don't Blame Me (Taylor's Version)"
  5. "Delicate (Taylor's Version)"
  6. "Look What You Made Me Do (Taylor's Version)"
  7. "So It Goes... (Taylor's Version)"
  8. "Gorgeous (Taylor's Version)"
  9. "Getaway Car (Taylor's Version)"
  10. "King Of My Heart (Taylor's Version)"
  11. "Dancing With Our Hands Tied (Taylor's Version)"
  12. "Dress (Taylor's Version)"
  13. "This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things (Taylor's Version)"
  14. "Call It What You Want (Taylor's Version)"
  15. "New Year's Day (Taylor's Version)"

What is Taylor Swift wearing to Grammys 2024?

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Taylor Swift showed up to the 2024 Grammys in a sculptural white gown from Schiaparelli Couture. I love how Taylor has hopped on the corset trend. This is my favorite neckline in recent years! Even though the dress is white instead of black or green — and ended up going along with the Tortured Poets Department (or TS 11) announcement — I think it's still a Reputation (Taylor's Version) Easter egg. White is, of course, the opposite of black, so I think it's a more unexpected reference to the album, with black accessories like gloves, shoes, and jewelry being a direct nod. Plus, the watch necklace pays homage to Midnights! At the 2022 VMAs, Taylor wore another Reputation-coded outfit before she announced Midnights, so I think it's definitely a pattern.

Is there gonna be a Reputation Taylor's Version?

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Taylor Swift performs at Optus Stadium on October 19, 2018 in Perth, Australia.

Yes, we're getting a Reputation (Taylor's Version)! Taylor Swift has been very vocal about the fact she's rerecording her first five albums. However, she's been less direct about the order or the release schedule, which is honestly more fun! The official Taylor Nation account added fuel to the fire when they posted a photo of Taylor rehearsing for The Eras Tour — because, like @nashs_mom on TikTok says, the pose doesn't match up with any of the songs. While all the photos they've previously posted match up with numbers like "Enchanted" or "Illicit Affairs," the new pose seems to match up with "I Did Something Bad" (which is both the last Reputation surprise song left AND the perfect song to announce the rerecording).

"Hear me out," another TikTok user commented. "['I Did Something Bad'] was not part of the set list in 2023 but what if the first night of the tour in 2024 she performs [it] and announces REP TV."

"I literally ratatatataed as soon as I saw it," another user says, referencing the iconic production at the beginning of the song. We have less than a month before the Eras Tour starts up again, so I'm excited to see when we'll finally get a Reputation (Taylor's Version) announcement!

What caused Taylor Swift to make Reputation?

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Cover art for Kanye West's The Life Of Pablo, which features "Famous."

The primary catalyst for Taylor Swift's Reputation era was a phone call with Kanye West and Kim Kardashian. After Taylor said Kanye did not have her permission to say he "made that b-tch famous" in "Famous," a video leak from Kim seemed to show Taylor did actually give her permission (it was later revealed the video was edited, and Taylor gave her permission to be mentioned, NOT to be called a b-tch).

"#TaylorSwiftIsOverParty" began trending on Twitter, and everyone from the media to the general public began calling her a snake. So she disappeared from the public eye for over a year, and Reputation was born. The era was moody — and full of snake imagery. Taylor says in her TIME interview that the album came from "a goth-punk moment of female rage at being gaslit by an entire social structure," and told Rolling Stone in 2019 that Reputation was a "metaphor" and her "playing a character."

How old was Taylor when she wrote Reputation?

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Charli XCX, Camila Cabello and Taylor Swift perform onstage during opening night of Taylor Swift's 2018 Reputation Stadium Tour at University of Phoenix Stadium on May 8, 2018 in Glendale, Arizona.

Taylor began writing Reputation in 2016, when she was 27. However, the stories she's telling go back farther than that since "Dancing With Our Hands Tied" talks about a relationship from when she was 25.

Is Reputation a love album?

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Cover art for Taylor Swift's Reputation.

While Reputation is sassy, moody, and satirical, I stand by the idea that it's actually a love album at its core. While the general public talked most about "Ready for It?" and "Look What You Made Me Do," songs like "Delicate," "Call It What You Want," and "New Year's Day" are all about healing after the media turned against her. The message of the album is all about how she wants to spend the the ins and outs of life with people she loves, because they make the boring days beautiful, which is also the sentiment running throughout "Lover."

"I want your midnights, but I'll be cleaning up bottles with you on New Year's Day" and "We can leave the Christmas lights up 'til January" are the same!!

What are the Reputation Taylor's Version vault tracks?

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A Horcrux from Harry Potter And The Deathly Hallows: Part I

While we don't have the tracklist for Reputation (Taylor's Version) yet, she did mention in her TIME interview that the vault tracks will be "fire."

"I’m collecting horcruxes,” she says of the rerecordings. “I’m collecting infinity stones. Gandalf’s voice is in my head every time I put out a new one. For me, it is a movie now.”

I'm going to be real honest, this is the line that sent me into a tailspin because the idea that Taylor loves stories like Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, and the MCU as much as I do is too much!! But it makes sense because after all, she IS a storyteller.

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If Emma Stone is on a movie's cast list, there's a good chance I'll be watching. The Poor Things actress (who just won an Oscar for her role!) is teaming up with director Yorgos Lanthimos for a third time on his new movie Kinds of Kindness. The summer movie has a crazy cast list, and the story looks like it could be one of Yorgos’ wackiest movies yet. While both The Favourite and Poor Things served as strange and fantastical looks at different time periods, it seems Kinds of Kindness takes place in modern America. Here's everything we know!

What is Emma Stone's new movie?

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Emma Stone's new movie is called Kinds of Kindness. The film will follow three separate stories: a man who feels like he has no agency and sets out to claim control over his life, a policeman whose missing wife reappears and seems to be a completely different person, and a woman searching for someone with inhuman abilities who's destined for leadership.

In the newest still from Kinds of Kindness, Emma Stone and Joe Alwyn seem to be in the middle of a standoff. They’re actually standing outside the motel we’ve see Emma’s character drive in front of, which makes me think this will be a huge location within the story. While these actors are all-business during filming, I’m genuinely wondering if they’ve talked about The Tortured Poets Department considering they’ve both been a huge part of Taylor Swift’s life. I HAVE to know which TTPD song Emma has on repeat. (For me, it's "The Alchemy.")

Even though the movie is set in modern America, it definitely seems Kinds of Kindness will have Yorgos Lanthimos' signature wacky and unconventional approach to storytelling. It's kind of like Americana meets magical realism, which, alongside Beyoncé's country album, definitely makes me think media in 2024 will feel like going back to our roots. Watch the Kinds of Kindness teaser trailer here!

When is the Kinds of Kindness release date?

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Kinds of Kindness will be released on June 21, 2024. There's nothing like seeing a new movie in theaters, and this one will be the kind of experience that requires a big screen!

Who's in the Kinds of Kindness cast?

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In addition to Emma Stone, the Kinds of Kindness cast includes Willem Dafoe, Jesse Plemons, Margaret Qualley, Hong Chau, Joe Alwyn, Mamoudou Athie, and Hunter Schafer. Talk about an incredible group of stars!

We just saw Willem Dafoe and Margaret Qualley star alongside Emma Stone in Poor Things, as well as Joe Alwyn share scenes with Emma in The Favourite, and I love that Kinds of Kindness is like a mini reunion.

When was Kinds of Kindness filmed?

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Kinds of Kindness filmed around New Orleans near the end of 2022. The bold colors and contemporary setting mean this is going to be the perfect summer movie. Even the autumnal environment is adding to the overall aesthetic of the movie! You know that time of year where everything is warm yet still has some of the brightness of summer? That's how this new Emma Stone movie feels.

What are other Emma Stone movies to watch?

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If you're an Emma Stone movie fan, then you definitely need to check out La La Land. Some other ones I'd recommend include Easy A, Crazy, Stupid, Love, and even her recent TV show The Curse. Aside from La La Land, her most critically acclaimed movies are 2018's The Favourite and 2023's Poor Things.

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