I Always Wanted to Have a Baby… Until I Realized I Didn’t

Karen Corday
Mar 22, 2017

When I was 26 years old, I made a “40 x 40” list — 40 things I wanted to accomplish by the time I turned 40. I had 14 years to accomplish everything on the list, ranging from “go to California” to “skinny dip (again)” to “learn how to grow tomatoes.” The very last item on the list, “have a child,” gives me pause today. When I made the list, I had no desire to be a mother, but I thought having a child was something I was supposed to do in order to succeed at growing up, and that I wouldn’t be a real adult until that all-important life event was crossed off the list along with travel, gardening, and naked swimming.

I had just gotten married when I made the list. First came love, then came marriage — so it only stood to reason that the baby carriage was going to follow. That’s how adulthood worked, right?

I half-seriously mulled over the idea of parenting many times. I imagined creating a small person who had my eyes and my partner’s laugh and fantasized about holding a small hand in mine, pointing out cloud formations as we walked home from the playground for a snack, a story, and a nap, but it was always just a fleeting fantasy. Whenever I truly thought about my future and the life I wanted to lead, I never saw a child of my own in that landscape. I never felt the rush of excitement that came from reading other items on the list: Finish my Master’s degree (check!), Publish SOMETHING (check!,) Learn to belly dance (check, sort of!). Nevertheless, I assumed I’d grow into wanting a child, and that maybe I did actually have a biological clock which would suddenly start ringing incessantly, not stopping until I finally crossed off that last item.

It never happened. Every time I would make plans to start thinking about having a baby, I’d put off making any decisions because I never felt the same need to be a mother as I felt for learning, writing, dancing, and every other thing on my proverbial list. The older I got, the more I realized that it wasn’t actually something I would grow into after all.

I’m 41 now and I’ve accomplished most of the goals on my 40 x 40 list, including visiting California, growing tomatoes, and skinny dipping — all more than once, as a matter of fact. I did not, however, have a child, nor do I plan to have one. In fact, at some point, I crossed “have a child” off the list — not with a check mark, as I marked the successfully completed tasks, but with a line directly through the center of the words, removing it as a “to do” item entirely.

It’s possible I did this when my now ex-husband and I separated seven years into the list — an event that, unfortunately, allowed me to check off the 39th item on the list: Surprise everyone. Whatever the catalyst, having a child stopped being part of my life plan and it has remained off all of my to-do lists. When I turned 40 and looked back at my list, I didn’t feel any sadness, regret, or shame about not reaching the goal of motherhood I had made 14 years before. Instead, I felt relief about admitting that it didn’t need to be part of my plan at all. Getting older wasn’t about checking off items on a list; it was about reevaluating my life and what I wanted it to look like as I went along. More than anything else, it was about accepting who I am instead of mourning who I thought I was supposed to be.

Despite my decision to remain childless, the expectation of motherhood from much of the rest of the world remains. I have lost track of the number of times someone has replied “Oh, well, not YET!” when I tell them I don’t have kids. My younger sister recently had her second child, and while most well-wishers have left their remarks at “Congratulations, Auntie!” — a few have looked at pictures of me with my nieces in my arms and asked, “Doesn’t that make you want one too?”

Well, no, it turns out that it doesn’t, and I don’t feel like anything is missing from my life. I’ve accomplished everything I’ve wanted. All there is to come is enough for me, and that is such a relief.

There’s no one series of successfully completed tasks that magically grants us the status of “grown up.” Nevertheless, even people who I’ve told many times that I don’t plan to have children continuously check in with me to see if I still feel that way; they still think it’s a phase I’ll grow out of eventually, which is what I thought myself, years ago. I now limit my to-do lists, big and small, to things I have to do and things I want to do, not things I think I’m supposed to do, and I’m happy I finally grew up enough to realize that’s the way it should be.

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How I Empowered My Short Daughter — And Myself, Too — to Feel Confident

I’ve always told my daughter Hayley that she was smart, beautiful, and deserving, and as a toddler, she embraced the “all girls can” sentiment. For her, “no” was just a starting point — she didn’t let anyone or anything stand in the way of her success.

But Hayley’s beliefs about herself changed in an instant when she was just three years old. I remember that spring day like it was yesterday.

“I don’t want to go to school anymore,” she cried, as she stretched out her tiny arms as wide as they would go. “I’m the shortest one in the class and all my friends are much bigger and better than me!”

It turned out that her preschool teachers had hung up a growth chart in the classroom so the kids could track their growth over the course of the school year. But that innocent activity had very real implications for Hayley, who only saw herself as a masking-tape marking at the bottom of the chart, with no other names in sight. For the first time in her three years of life, what she articulated to me were feelings of shame.

I knew Hayley was short — her pediatrician always pointed out during routine check-ups that while she was healthy and developing, she’d never quite been on the growth chart for her age. But I hadn’t thought about it much until that fateful afternoon.

Let’s face it: Today’s world is filled with bullying, intolerance, and hate, and when it comes to discrimination, height isn’t necessarily an issue we think about. But it doesn’t mean this type of judgment isn’t real.

“I don’t like being called munchkin or peanut,” she told me. “It hurts my feelings.”

Being 5’1″ on a very good day (with heels and volumized hair), I related to Hayley’s predicament all too well. Growing up, I was always the shortest kid in class. All too often, I felt the sting of gym class rejection when it was time for captains to pick teams. Sometimes, I still have nightmares that I’m that sad little girl again, sitting with my fingers and toes crossed and hoping that I wouldn’t be last pick.

These feelings were also very real in high school, when I was asked to show identification for seeing R-rated movies, while my friends were led right into the theater. At times, I was even handed the kids’ menu at local restaurants when I was well beyond the 12-and-under cutoff. This type of height bias continued for me well into my college years, when bar bouncers scrutinized my ID under a special blacklight to ensure it wasn’t fake.

Thinking further about Hayley’s feelings and my own experiences, I realized that as a society, we are accustomed to perceiving short stature as a negative — a reason to take a person less seriously.

I racked my brain to think of books, movies, and television shows with a short heroine. Much to my surprise, I could not come up with even one. Instead, what did come to mind were tons of characters who had special abilities precisely because they were tall, like Wonder Woman and Elastigirl from The Incredibles.

And when it comes to height in the workplace, studies prove that standing tall pays off — literally. According to a study in the Journal of Applied Psychology, each inch above “average” is worth approximately $789 per year.

The recent mayoral race in Chicago, where I live, also shed light on how people view height from a political perspective. While Lori Lightfoot made history for being Chicago’s first openly gay and first Black female mayor, she couldn’t get through press interviews without questions jokingly arising about her height (like me, she’s 5’1″), when the race for office was about much bigger issues for the city. During her acceptance speech, she even alluded to the scrutiny she faced for being short, saying, “They’re seeing a city reborn…where it surely doesn’t matter how tall you are.”

The statement made by Lightfoot was both something I wanted to tell Hayley, and something I refused to acknowledge because it was absolutely ridiculous that discrimination on the basis of height was even a thing. But here we were.

The American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress believe that bullying has a real and profound psychological impact into adulthood. The saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me,” rings untrue. For the most part, physical damage from a fight heals quickly, but words can cause lasting damage to a child’s self-concepts and identity.

While I knew the comments made about Hayley’s height were innocent and playful, and even endearing at times, I worried that being labeled as short would cause her to lack confidence at a crucial time in her emotional and social development.

So I began to empower her by talking to her about the advantages that only she had because of her height, framing it in a fun way that would make her feel special. For example, she is the last one to get wet when it rains, and she can still manage to squeeze in the race car carts at the grocery store.

Additionally, we focused on acceptance and perseverance. “Worry about being the best Hayley,” I frequently told her. “Today’s Hayley should learn from yesterday’s mistakes.”

Changing her mindset was no easy feat, but over time, it got easier — especially once I realized I had to model the attitude I was trying to teach her.

Hayley takes cues from me. She watches me get ready every morning, and I know there have been times I’ve told her I needed to wear my high heels because I had an interview or an important meeting to attend. While I have never believed that height equates self-confidence, it occurred to me that, on some level, I was basically telling my daughter to stock a closet full of pumps because that was how I’d been conditioned to think.

Now, at 35 years old, I am retraining my brain to put the notion of short and tall on a level playing field. I talk to Hayley about how to accept herself and continue to point out her advantages and celebrate her differences. While Hayley measures about three inches below the growth curve for a child her age, she is not short on confidence. Together, we’re learning.

Lori Orlinsky is a writer, children’s book author, and marketing director who lives in Chicago. She is the mother of two little ladies. Her book Being Small (Isn’t So Bad After All)is out on April 16.

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The 54 Most-Anticipated Spring Movies For 2024

Every year, like clockwork, I have a very clear aesthetic shift when we hit March 1. Even if it's still chilly, I'm totally ready to say goodbye to the winter blues and hello to pastels, bouquets, and my personal favorite spring color combo: purple and green. And just like our world IRL, our favorite movies *also* experience a bit of an aesthetic shift. Instead of the boldness of summer movies, the cozy yet edgy quality of fall movies, or the magic of winter movies, these 2024 moviesare as fresh as a bouquet of flowers.

While you're adding some new spring break swimsuits and spring Target dresses to your shopping cart, check out these spring movies! They're fresh, fun, and ready to shake off their winter layers ;). If you're wondering what movies will be in theaters in March 2024, which April movies are headed your way, and what May movies are coming in 2024, stick around and find out. Check out The Best New TV Shows Coming In 2024 too!

Challengers — In Theaters April 26, 2024

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In Challengers, we see Zendaya play a whole new role as tennis pro-turned-coach Tashi, who is determined to turn her husband Art into a pro. But things get a little messy when Art's pitted against his former best friend Patrick, who's also Tashi's ex. No biggie! This movie looks emotional, sexy, and edgy, and I literally can't wait. It's definitely shaping up to be one of the best spring movies this year. Read our Challengers review after you see the movie!

Challengers hits theaters April 26 and stars Mike Faist, Josh O'Connor, and Zendaya.

Unsung Hero — In Theaters April 26, 2024

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Inspired by the true story of the Smallbone family, this spring movie follows David (played by Joel Smallbone), who moves his wife and their six kids from Australia to the US after his music company falls apart. Forced to rebuild their lives from the ground up, mom Helen (Daisy Betts) helps the family hold on to their faith — leading to their daughter Rebecca and sons Luke and Joel to become international music artists.

Unsung Hero is in theaters April 26 and stars Daisy Betts, Kirrilee Berger, Diesel La Torraca, Jonathan Jackson, JJ Pantano, Joel Smallbone.

The Idea Of You — On Prime Video May 2, 2024

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In The Idea of You, Anne Hathaway stars as 40-year-old Solène, who chaperones her teen daughter's trip to Coachella. The music festival already promises to be an adventure, but the last thing Sophie expects is to strike up a romance with 24-year-old frontman Hayes Campbell (Nicholas Galitzine).

The Idea of You drops on Prime Video May 2 and stars Nicholas Galitzine, Anne Hathaway, Ella Rubin, and Reid Scott.

Turtles All The Way Down — On Max May 2, 2024

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John Green fans will love this adaptation of Turtles All The Way Down. The spring movie follows the very-anxious Aza, who's trying her best to be the best daughter, student, and friend possible. And when she reconnects with her childhood crush Davis, Aza has to come face-to-face with ideas of love, happiness, and hope that she's been running from.

Turtles All The Way Down hits Max May 2 and stars Isabela Merced, Cree, Felix Mallard, Maliq Johnson, Poorna Jagannathan, Judy Reyes, and J. Smith-Cameron.

Prom Dates — On Hulu May 3, 2024

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Jess and Hannah decided in middle school that they'd have the perfect senior prom. Everything's going according to plan...until 24 hours before the dance when they break up with their dates. Now, the best friends have to figure out what their dream prom will actually look like.

Prom Dates hits Hulu May 3 and stars Julia Lester, Antonia Gentry, Kenny Ridwan, JT Neal, Jordan Buhat, Zión Moreno, Terry Hu, John Michael Higgins, and Chelsea Handler.

The Fall Guy — In Theaters May 3, 2024

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Stuntman Colt Seavers (Ryan Gosling) left Hollywood to prioritize his mental and physical health. But when the star of his ex's (Emily Blunt) blockbuster goes missing, Colt has to use all his stuntman skills to find him. This spring movie looks like pure, adrenaline-filled fun and I can't wait to see Ryan Gosling back on my screen after Barbie!

The Fall Guy hits theaters May 3 and stars Emily Blunt, Winston Duke, Ryan Gosling, Stephanie Hsu, Teresa Palmer, Aaron Taylor-Johnson, and Hannah Waddingham.

Unfrosted: The Pop-Tart Story — On Netflix May 3, 2024

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It's 1963 and Kellogg's and Post are cereal archenemies. Both teams find themselves in a race to create a brand new breakfast pastry and the sugar, ambition, and betrayal that follow literally change the world.

Unfrosted: The Pop-Tart Story hits Netflix May 3 and has an all-star cast including Jerry Seinfeld, Melissa McCarthy, Jim Gaffigan, Amy Schumer, Hugh Grant, Max Greenfield, Christian Slater, and Bill Burr.

I Saw The TV Glow — In Select Theaters May 3, 2024

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Like so many of us, Owen is literally just trying to survive his teenage years in the suburbs. When his classmate introduces him to a strange late-night TV show that's basically a look into the supernatural world beneath ours, Owen's view of life — and reality — slowly begins to splinter.

I Saw The TV Glow hits select theaters May 3 and stars Justice Smith, Brigitte Lundy-Paine, and Ian Foreman.

Cuckoo — In Theaters May 3, 2024

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Gretchen (played by Euphoria's Hunter Schafer) is staying in a resort in the German Alps with her dad and stepmom when she begins to see visions of a woman chasing her. The more she learns about the visions, the more she learns about the strange experiments the resort has been hiding.

Cuckoo hits theaters May 3 and stars Hunter Schafer, Dan Stevens, Jessica Henwick, Marton Csókás, Jan Bluthardt.

Kingdom Of The Planet Of The Apes — In Theaters May 8, 2024

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This new 2024 spring movie opens 300 years after the reign of Caesar ends. Now, it's up to a young ape to go on a life-changing journey that will define the future for both apes and humans.

Kingdom Of The Planet Of The Apes hits theaters May 8 and stars Owen Teague, Freya Allan, Kevin Durand, Peter Macon, and William H. Macy.

Mother of the Bride — On Netflix May 9, 2024

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Lana's excited to see her daughter Emma after her time abroad, but when Emma announces she's getting married (in Thailand, in a month), Lana is less than thrilled. But what's even worse? Emma's future father-in-law is the man who broke her heart.

Mother of the Bride hits Netflix May 9 and stars Brooke Shields, Benjamin Bratt, Miranda Cosgrove, Rachael Harris, Sean Teale, and Chad Michael Murray.

Poolman — In Theaters May 10, 2024

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Darren (played by Chris Pine, who's also directing!) is your average poolman, and he's constantly fighting to make LA a better place to live. When he's suddenly tasked with uncovering the secrets behind a sketchy business deal, Darren gets his friends in on a mission that could change everything.

Poolman hits theaters May 10 and stars Chris Pine, Annette Being, Danny DeVito, Jennifer Jason Leigh, DeWanda Wise, Stephen Tobolowsky, Clancy Brown, John Ortiz, and Ray Wise.

The Image of You — In Theaters May 10, 2024

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Based on Adele Parks' bestselling thriller, this spring movie follows identical twins Anna and Zoe, who find their bond tested in a new way when Anna falls in love with Nick. Zoe isn't as trusting as her sister, and the deeper she goes to find the truth, the more danger both sisters encounter.

The Image of You hits select theaters and digital May 10 and stars Sasha Pieterse, Parker Young, Nestor Carbonell, and Mira Sorvino.

Back To Black — In Theaters May 17, 2024

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Starring Marisa Abela in the lead role, this biopic offers a look into Amy Winehouse's life — and her rise to fame — as she creates her iconic Back to Black record. This movie is *sure* to have an incredible soundtrack and I already can't wait!

Back to Black hits theaters May 17 and stars Marisa Abela, Juliet Cowan, Lesley Manville, Eddie Marsan, and Jack O'Connell.

The Strangers — Chapter 1 — In Theaters May 17, 2024

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Maya and Ryan aren't expecting to spend the night in the middle of nowhere, but then again, they weren't expecting their car to break down, either. What starts off as a low-stakes accident spirals out of control when three masked strangers begin targeting the couple.

The Strangers: Chapter 1 hits theaters May 17 and stars Madelaine Petsch, Froy Gutierrez, Gabriel Basso, and Ema Horvath.

Imaginary Friends — In Theaters May 17, 2024

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Imaginary Friends (IF) follows Bea (Cailey Fleming), who starts to see everyone's forgotten imaginary friends and decides to reconnect them with their kids. This superstar cast features Ryan Reynolds, John Krasinski, Fiona Shaw, Phoebe Waller-Bridge, and Steve Carell, plus John Krasinski as director! We got a sneak peek at CinemaCon 2023 and cannot wait.

Imaginary Friends hits theaters May 17 and stars Steve Carell, Louis Gossett Jr., Cailey Fleming, John Krasinski, Ryan Reynolds, Fiona Shaw, and Phoebe Waller-Bridge.

Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga — In Theaters May 24, 2024

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Starring Anya Taylor-Joy and Chris Hemsworth, this 2024 spring movie follows the titular warrior (played by Anya) on her journey across the Wasteland with biker warlord Dementus and his gang. Furiosa's journey quickly becomes a fight for survival when they cross paths with the Immortan Joe.

Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga premieres May 24 and stars Alyla Browne, Tom Burke, Chris Hemsworth, and Anya Taylor-Joy.

Atlas — On Netflix May 24, 2024

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Jennifer Lopez stars as Atlas, a brilliant data analyst who doesn't trust AI at all. But when she's sent on a mission to capture a robot who's gone MIA, she finds that AI might be her only hope of returning home successfully. With so much going on in our own technological advancements, this movie couldn't come out at a better time!

Atlas hits Netflix May 24 and stars Jennifer Lopez, Simu Liu, Sterling K. Brown, Abraham Popoola, Lana Parrilla, Mark Strong.

The Garfield Movie — In Theaters May 24, 2024

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I will never say no to a film that brings my favorite cartoons to life, and this spring movie is no exception. This is sure to be a hilarious and heartfelt story that that doesn't take itself too seriously. If you ask me, this is the *perfect* early summer movie night.

The Garfield Movie hits theaters May 24 and stars Chris Pratt, Samuel L. Jackson, Nicholas Hoult, Ving Rhames, Cecily Strong, and Hannah Waddingham.

Young Woman and the Sea — In Select Theaters May 31, 2024

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This spring movie, based on the book of the same name, stars follows Trudy Ederle, who became the first woman to ever swim across the English Channel on August 6, 1926. "What she accomplished was not only a personal achievement, but ground breaking for women in sport," lead actress Daisy Ridley tells PEOPLE. "I’m excited for people to see this film in all its beauty and experience this journey, with all its difficulty and hope and ultimately joy"

Young Woman and the Sea hits select theaters May 31 and stars Daisy Ridley, Tilda Cobham-Hervey, Stephen Graham, Christopher Eccleston, and Jeanette Hain.

​Dune: Part 2 — In Theaters Now

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I have not been able to stop talking about this franchise since I saw the first installment, and this spring movie looks like it's going to be even better than the original. Dune 2 follows Timothée Chalamet's Paul as he pairs up with the Fremen, confronts his enemies, and learns more about his destiny after his father's murder. Once again I say: I will never stop talking about this new spring movie!!

Dune 2 hits theaters March 1 and stars Timothée Chalamet, Zendaya, Florence Pugh, Austin Butler, Josh Brolin, and Rebecca Ferguson.

Spaceman — On Netflix Now

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In this sci-fi drama, Adam Sandler plays Jakub, an astronaut who is desperate to return to earth so he can fix his marriage with Lenka (Carey Mulligan). Jakub isn't sure where to begin, until he finds an ancient creature hiding in his ship (voiced by Paul Dano) ready to help.

Spaceman hits Netflix March 1. The movie stars Adam Sandler, Carey Mulligan, Paul Dano, and Kunal Nayyar.

Ricky Stanicky — On Prime Video Now

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20 years after they created Ricky Stanicky, an imaginary friend, three childhood friends still use him as an alibi when they need a quick exit. But when their significant others demand to meet the infamous Ricky, the trio decides to hire actor Rod to play him — and end up regretting creating Ricky in the first place.

Ricky Stanicky premieres March 7 on Prime Video and in theaters. The movie stars Zac Efron, John Cena, Jermaine Fowler, and Andrew Santino.

Kung Fu Panda 4 — In Theaters Now

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Jack Black returns to our screens as Po, who has to find a new Dragon Warrior after he's chosen to be the Spiritual Leader of the Valley of Peace. But the quest in this new spring movie gets more difficult when an evil sorceress plans to gather all the villain's Po's already defeated.

You can watch Kung Fu Panda 4 starting March 8. The film stars Jack Black, Awkwafina, James Hong, Dustin Hoffman, Bryan Cranston, Viola Davis, and Ke Huy Quan.

Damsel — On Now

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In Damsel, powerhouse actress and entrepreneur Millie Bobby Brown stars as Princess Elodie, who agrees to marry the handsome Prince Henry. But after she's already agreed to the union, and realizes the entire set-up was a trap, Elodie finds herself trapped in a cave with a fire-breathing dragon.

You can watch Damsel on Netflix March 8. The movie stars Angela Bassett, Millie Bobby Brown, Nick Robinson, Ray Winstone, and Robin Wright.

Cabrini — In Theaters Now

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In honor of International Women's Day, Angel Studios is releasing Cabrini, which follows the unbelievably inspiring true story of Italian immigrant Francesca Cabrini. When she arrives in the US in 1889, Francesca, dealing with severe health problems, has to gather up all the strength she has in a mission to secure housing for orphans living on the streets of New York City.

Cabrini hits theaters March 8 and stars Virginia Bocelli, Cristiana Dell'Anna, John Lithgow, Romana Maggiora, and David Morse.

Love Lies Bleeding — In Select Theaters Now

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Lou (Kristen Stewart) is an introverted gym manager who falls hard for bodybuilder Jackie's (Katy O'Brian) ambition and drive. Jackie intends to pop in and out of town on her way to Vegas — that is, until the pair gets pulled into the violence of Lou's criminal family.

Love Lies Bleeding hits theaters March 8 and stars Ed Harris, Jena Malone, Katy O'Brian, and Kristen Stewart.

Accidental Texan — In Theaters Now

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Outer Banks star Rudy Pankow plays Erwin, an actor who's stranded in Texas after getting kicked off a movie. When he's taken in by oil driller Merle, he joins the family's quest to outwit their corrupt oil company.

Accidental Texan hits theaters March 8 and stars Rudy Pankow, Thomas Haden Church, Carrie-Anne Moss, Bruce Dern, and AnnaClare Hicks.

Little Wing — On Paramount+ Now

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Not only is Kaitlyn grieving her parents' divorce, but now she has to deal with the upcoming loss of her home. In an effort to solve her mom's money problems, Kaitlyn and her best friend decide to steal a valuable bird, but wind up becoming friends with its owner instead.

Little Wing drops on Paramount+ March 13. The movie stars Brian Cox, Kelly Reilly, Brooklynn Prince, and Che Tafari.

Frida — On Prime Video Now

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Get a brand new look into the life and art of Frida Kahlo with this movie that includes entries from her diary, letters, and essays. The film covers more than 40 years of her life, and the coolest part is that Kahlo's own words are brought to life by colorful and lyrical animation inspired by her work!

Frida hits Prime Video March 15.

Irish Wish — On Netflix Now

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In Irish Wish, Maddie's in Ireland for her best friend's wedding, but it's not all rainbows and pots of gold — because Maddie's BFF is marrying Paul, the man *she's* in love with. When Maddie wishes that she was the bride instead, she wakes up to her dream relationship with Paul. But the more time passes, the more Maddie wonders whether Paul's actually the one she's supposed to end up with. Check out our interviews with Lindsay Lohan and Ayesha Curry, and Ed Speleers!

Irish Wish hits Netflix March 15 and stars Lindsay Lohan, Jane Seymour, Elizabeth Tan, Ed Speleers, Alexander Vlahos, and Ayesha Curry.

Snack Shack — In Theaters Now

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It's the summer of 1991 in Nebraska City, and best friends AJ and Moose decide to turn the rundown pool snack shack into the hottest place in town. But when they meet lifeguard Brooke, their summer plans to strike it rich — and their friendship — get put to the test.

Snack Shack hits theaters March 15 and stars Conor Sherry, Gabriel LaBelle, Mika Abdalla, Nick Robinson, and David Costabile.

Arthur The King — In Theaters Now

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Mikael Lindnord (Mark Wahlberg) is the captain of a Swedish adventure racing team in this spring movie, which which is based on a true story! When he meets a stray dog during his treacherous 400-mile race, he has to figure out how to get them both out of the jungles of Ecuador.

Arthur The King premieres March 15 and stars Nathalie Emmanuel, Simu Liu, Juliet Rylance, and Mark Wahlberg.

French Girl — In Theaters Now

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Gordon plans to propose to his girlfriend — until a job offer from her ex gets her to move to Quebec. Determined to strengthen their relationship, Gordon follows her to Canada and winds up having to impress her entire family. Check out our interview with Zach Braff, Évelyne Brochu, and Vanessa Hudgens!

French Girl hits theaters March 15 and stars Zach Braff, Evelyne Brochu, Luc Picard, Antoine Olivier Pilon, Isabelle Vincent, Charlotte Aubin, Muriel Dutil, William Fichtner, and Vanessa Hudgens.

Road House — On Prime Video Now

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An 80s classic gets a modern, action-packed update with Road House, which stars Jake Gyllenhaal as an ex-UFC fighter named Dalton. When he takes a job as a Florida Keys roadhouse bouncer, he realizes this dreamy new life isn't exactly paradise.

Roadhouse hits Prime Video March 21 and stars Jake Gyllenhaal, Post Malone, Conor McGregor, Daniela Melchior, and Hannah Love Lanier.

Shirley — On Netflix Now

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Take a step back in time to follow Shirley Chisholm's presidential campaign in 1972. Chisholm became the first Black congresswoman and a political icon, and this is one movie you cannot miss. Check out our interview with Shirley star Christina Jackson!

Shirley drops on Netflix March 22 and stars Regina King, Christina Jackson, Lucas Hedges, Michael Cherrie, Dorian Missick, Amirah Vann, W. Earl Brown, André Holland, and Terrence Howard.

Immaculate — In Theaters Now

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Cecilia is over the moon to join a convent in the beautiful Italian countryside. She welcomes the adventure with open arms, but things take a turn for the sinister when she begins to discover that the convent is hiding much more than they let on in the beginning. Check out our interview with Sydney Sweeney to hear more!

Immaculate hits theaters March 22 and stars Sydney Sweeney, Álvaro Morte, Benedetta Porcaroli, and Dora Romano.

Luca — In Theaters Now

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This coming-of-age film is great for anyone who's dreaming of a summer adventure. Luca's enjoying the most magical summer in Italy. While all the gelato and scooter rides are fun, Luca's favorite part is spending every day with his new best friend. But Luca also has a secret that could threaten everything: he's actually a sea monster who's not supposed to be on land.

Luca is being rereleased in theaters on March 22. The film stars Emma Berman, Jim Gaffigan, Giacomo Gianniotti, Jack Dylan Grazer, Maya Rudolph, and Jacob Tremblay.

Problemista — In Theaters Now

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Aspiring toy designer Alejandro is having a hard time bringing his unique and unconventional ideas into the real world. But when time begins to run out on his work visa, he becomes the assistant for a strange and passionate figure in the art world — a job that just might help save his dream.

Problemista is in theaters now and stars Julio Torres, Tilda Swinton, Greta Lee, James Scully, and RZA.

Ghostbusters: Frozen Empire — In Theaters Now

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This spring movie is more nostalgic than ever because the Spenglers are headed back to the New York City firehouse. When they accidentally release an evil force thanks to an ancient artifact, they have to team up to prevent a second Ice Age from taking over the world.

Ghostbusters: Frozen Empire premieres March 29 and stars Carrie Coon, McKenna Grace, Emily Alyn Lind, Paul Rudd, and Finn Wolfhard.

La Chimera — On Apple TV Now

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The Chimera means something different to everyone. To find his Chimera — the woman he's lost — Arthur will go to the ends of the earth to find the door to the afterlife. This spring movie holds a tension between life and death in a way you won't be able to let go of.

La Chimera hits Apple TV March 29 and stars Josh O'Connor, Carol Duarte, Vincenzo Nemolato, Alba Rohrwacher, Isabella Rossellini, and Lou Roy-Lecollinet.

Godzilla x Kong: The New Empire — In Theaters Now

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Godzilla and King Kong are two of the most iconic creatures in cinema, and they're back for another battle. But this time, it's a battle against a dangerous force hidden within the planet. Now, they have to team up to protect themselves — and everyone on earth.

Godzilla x Kong: The New Empire premieres March 29 and stars Fala Chen, Alex Ferns, Rebecca Hall, Brian Tyree Henry, Kaylee Hottle, Rachel House, and Dan Stevens.

The Beautiful Game — On Netflix Now

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Bill Nighy stars in this spring movie as Mal, manager for England’s homeless football team. When he decides to add Vinny as a striker ahead of the team's Homeless World Cup in Rome, they might have a chance at winning, but only if Vinny can learn to let go of the past.

The Beautiful Game hits Netflix March 29 and stars Bill Nighy, Micheal Ward, Callum Scott Howells, Sheyi Cole, Robin Nazari, Kit Young, Tom Vaughan-Lawlor, Valeria Golino.

Someone Like You — In Theaters Now

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Dawson (played by Jake Allyn) is mourning the sudden death of his best friend London (Sarah Fisher). When he learns that London has a secret twin sister, Andi, he sets out to find her. Turns out, Andi's looking for her biological parents — and it doesn't take long for Dawson and Andi's paths to cross in a way that changes everything.

Someone Like You hits theaters April 2 and stars Jake Allyn, Lynn Collins, Sarah Fisher, Bart Johnson, and Robyn Lively.

Música — On Prime Video Now

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Calling all rom-com lovers! Once you finish rewatching Camila Mendes' Upgraded (one of the best winter movies, IMO), check out Música. This spring movie follows Rudy, a street performer living with his mom in Newark. Rudy's feeling stuck between his passion for music and the idea of settling down. But everything changes when he meets Isabella (Camila). My favorite part about this movie is that IRL couple Camila Mendes and Rudy Mancuso met while filming!

Música is available to stream on Prime Video April 4. The movie stars Rudy Mancuso, Camila Mendes, Francesca Reale, Maria Mancuso, and J.B. Smoove.

How to Date Billy Walsh — On Prime Video Now

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Amelia and Archie have been best friends since they were kids, but Archie's keeping a huge secret: he's been in love with Amelia their entire lives. When he's finally ready to tell Amelia how he feels, she falls for the new American transfer student Billy Walsh. And the more Archie tries to keep them apart, the more he risks losing Amelia forever.

How to Date Billy Walsh premieres on Prime Video April 5 and stars Sebastian Croft, Charithra Chandran, and Tanner Buchanan.

Monkey Man — In Theaters Now

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Dev Patel directs and stars in this spring movie, which follows an anonymous young man in a quest to bring down a group of corrupt leaders. Using a somewhat unhinged campaign against these men who continually and systemically victimize the powerless, Patel's character sets out to avenge his mother. Filmmaking icon Jordan Peele serves as producer.

Monkey Man hits theaters April 5 and stars Sharlto Copley, Sobhita Dhulipala, Ashwini Kalsekar, and Dev Patel.

The Absence Of Eden — In Theaters Now

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In this spring movie, Zoe Saldaña stars as an undocumented woman trying to escape a cartel opposite an ICE agent (played by Garrett Hedlund) who's struggling with his role as a security agent at the border. When their paths cross, everything changes.

The Absence Of Eden hits theaters April 12 and stars Zoe Saldaña, Garrett Hedlund, Adria Arjona, and Tom Waits.

Civil War — In Theaters Now

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In this star-studded film, which features Kirsten Dunst, Jesse Plemmons, Cailee Spaeny, Wagner Moura, and Stephen McKinley, a group of journalists travel across an alternate version of the United States where a new civil war has ripped the country apart.

Civil War premieres April 12 and stars Kirsten Dunst, Stephen McKinley Henderson, Wagner Moura, Jesse Plemmons, Cailee Spaeny.

The Greatest Hits — On Hulu Now

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In this spring movie, Harriet knows music like the back of her hand. However, the last thing she expects is for certain songs to literally pull her back in time. As she starts reliving the past through her ex's memories, she's also finding new love in the present, and all this back and forth leaves her wondering if she can change the past — and if she even wants to. Check out our interview with Lucy Boynton on YouTube!

The Greatest Hits is available to stream on Hulu starting April 12. The film stars Lucy Boynton, Justin H. Min, Austin Crute, and David Corenswet.

Abigail — In Theaters Now

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The mission was simple: kidnap the 12-year-old daughter of an underworld mastermind, watch her overnight, and collect the $50 million ransom. But as the night wears on, the criminals begin to disappear. Mystery turns to horror when they realize this is no ordinary little girl.

Abigail premieres April 19 and stars Melissa Barrera, William Catlett, Angus Cloud, Kevin Durand, Giancarlo Esposito, Kathryn Newton, Dan Stevens, and Alisha Weir.

Rebel Moon - Part Two: The Scargiver — On Netflix Now

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Kora and the people of Veldt are ready to sacrifice everything to defend their home against the Motherworld. But the night before their battle, they must come together to reveal what they're fighting for — a night that will form unbreakable relationships and change everything.

Rebel Moon - Part Two: The Scargiver hits Netflix April 19 and stars Sofia Boutella, Djimon Hounsou, Michiel Huisman, Staz Nair, Donna Bae, E Duffy, and Cleopatra Coleman.

The Ministry of Ungentlemanly Warfare — In Theaters Now

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As someone who was obsessed with spies as a kid, I'm all about this new spring movie, which focuses on a secret Nazi-fighting organization founded by Winston Churchill. They use lots of unconventional (and apparently, ungentlemanly) methods.

You can see The Ministry of Ungentlemanly Warfare on April 19. The movie stars Henry Cavill, Cary Elwes, Eiza González, Henry Golding, Alex Pettyfer, Alan Ritchson, and Til Schweiger.

Sasquatch Sunset — In Theaters Now

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Sasquatch Sunset stars Daisy Jones lead Riley Keough and follows the last family of Sasquatches as they fight for survival in the midst of an ever-changing world. It's hilarious, it's ridiculous, and it's surprisingly human. FYI — this spring movie might seem fantastical, but it's not for kids!

Sasquatch Sunset hits theaters April 19 and stars Riley Keough, Jesse Eisenberg, Nathan Zellner, and Christophe Zajac-Denek.

Check back here for the latest news on your favorite spring movies! And don't forget to check all of the best winter movies off your watchlist before you press play on this year's summer movies.

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Jameela Jamil Has Become the Advocate That Eating Disorder Survivors Like Me Deserve

Actress and advocate Jameela Jamil has long called out the Kardashians for their ongoing promotion of so-called detox teas. Jamil’s vocal pushback recently resurfaced in the lead-up to the season 16 premiere of Keeping Up With the Kardashians — and the world is taking note.

In a March New York Timesinterview, Kardashian West addressed the criticism firsthand: “If there is work that is really easy that doesn’t take away from our kids, that’s like a huge priority, if someone was faced with the same job opportunities, I think they would maybe consider. You’re going to get backlash for almost everything so as long as you like it or believe in it or it’s worth it financially, whatever your decision may be, as long as you’re okay with that.”

To the Kardashians, detox teas may simply be inconsequential drinks that might help flatten a person’s stomach in a pinch. But the reality — as Jamil has been adamant to point out — is that they’re not so benign. Detox or cleanse teas, which are widely available across brands that include Flat Tummy Company, often include senna as an ingredient — an herbal laxative that can induce diarrhea and drain the body of liquids and nutrients.

When used long term and in quantities that exceed the recommended dosages, laxatives like senna can cause dehydration, gastrointestinal issues, and even heart disease. I know this because, for much of my youth, I was addicted to them.

My addiction began in my sophomore year of high school. Laxative abuse is, in fact, an eating disorder — one that many don’t talk or know about — and is often seen in those who battle anorexia and bulimia as well. As an impressionable teenager, I strived to look like the men I saw portrayed in media: thin, well-built, and defined. And so when I first came across detox teas, I viewed them as a quick way to shed some pounds.

But when I fell off my diet, the weight instantly came back. Why? Because abusing laxatives makes you incredibly dehydrated and malnourished. So when you begin to eat normally again, your body holds onto all of the food and drink you’re putting into it, and the weight quickly returns.

When the Kardashians’ New York Times interview went live, Jamil was quick to respond to Kardashian West’s rationale for continuing to endorse Flat Tummy Company products. On Twitter, she wrote, “I have been given these same opportunities to [advertise] this stuff, and I don’t do it, so they don’t have to. Thank you, next.”

A few days later, in an April 7 op-ed for NBC News, Harvard School of Public Health professor S. Bryn Austin credited Jamil for having “opened the eyes of millions around the globe to the corrupt and deceptive detox tea market.” Austin, a leading researcher in the field of eating disorder treatment and prevention, added that Jamil’s activism has “arguably” been more effective in getting the message across than 25 years’ worth of “well-intentioned but utterly unglamorous communications from the federal Food and Drug Administration (FDA).”

Dr. Austin also wrote that, according to new findings from her medical research teams at Harvard, “girls and young women who begin to use laxatives for weight loss vastly increase their risk of being diagnosed with an eating disorder[.]” She added that the American Academy of Pediatrics (APA) “is so concerned about this phenomenon that it issued a report a few years ago warning that under no circumstances should teens use these products” — referring to laxatives, diuretics, and diet pills — “no matter their weight.”

The harm in the Kardashians promoting detox teas is that there’s a good chance a lot of their audience — which includes many teenagers and young women — aspires to look like them. Many of the viewers they market to will trust what the Kardashians say about these teas and purchase them, hoping to achieve that “flat tummy.”

But what the famed family fails to realize is that laxative abuse can cause damage — both physical and emotional — to those who have struggled with eating disorders and body image issues in the past. Kardashian West’s flat stomach isn’t completely attributed to the teas, if at all: She also has access to a personal trainer, dietitian, and chef who can help her achieve a certain type of body. A person who purchases these teasexpecting KKW-type results will likely be disappointed.

Jamil, who has been vocal about her own previous struggles with eating disorders, has argued that celebrities have a responsibility to take up the lead in reframing conversations around weight, body image, and food. “They need to understand how triggering words can be for those suffering with ED,” she tweeted back in January.

By choosing to promote dubiously safe products, the Kardashians risk setting impressionable fans on a road toward bad consequences: potential eating disorders, negative body image, and unattainable body goals. That’s why it’s so meaningful when celebrities like Jamil use their platforms to do their part to address what the star herself calls “the desperate need we are in to change the conversation.”

RELATED: Backlash Against This Kardashian-Endorsed Diet Product Won’t Be Going Away Any Time Soon

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"Challengers" Review: Zendaya's Sexy New Movie Is Addictive

The first few trailers for Zendaya's Challengers hooked me with the promise of a steamy love triangle and plenty of drama on and off the tennis court. I can now confidently say this is one of the best movies of the year — if not Zendaya's entire career. The film (which just nabbed a 100 percent Rotten Tomatoes score) explores love and passion in a totally different way than I expected. And while it engages your senses, more than anything, it makes you feel.

"Challengers" Is A Fully Emotional Experience

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Challengers (directed by Luca Guadagnino) is a full experience thanks to the visuals, sound design, and score. The first 10 minutes alone will make you want to re-enter your tennis era, and the vibrant feel of Challengers makes everything from a American college campus to a backyard feel like the Italian coast.

This backyard is where we see Mike Faist's Art, Josh O'Connor's Patrick, and Zendaya's Tashi truly mesh for the first time. Both Art and Patrick want Tashi's number, but while she's curious, she's not so sure she should offer it up. They spend time talking about tennis and college, and later that night, Tashi promises her number to the one that wins their match, rather than the one that catches her eye or moves her. It's a telling choice that has major ramifications later on in the story. Tashi just wants to watch drama unfold, especially if it makes the boys' tennis more emotional (she, as the kids say, loves mess).

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From this point on, Tashi, Patrick, and Art move as a unit, even when their relationships end. Tashi's at the helm, and while she's definitely the mastermind, she's more like their North Star than a leader giving them direct orders. Patrick and Art follow her light over the course of the next 13 years, to a Challengers tournament that pits the estranged friends against each other.

It's very clear what both men think about her, and the smallest details reinforce they are in love. (For instance, at one of Tashi's early matches, their eyes linger on her even after she's hit the ball, while she barely moves a muscle to keep up with their match later in the movie).

"Challengers" Is More About The Characters Than Tennis

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Even though all three leads are fully-formed, individual characters (with wildly different personalities, might I add), they switch places at any given point in the story to fill each other's emotional shoes. One moment, Art is hopeful, Tashi is calculated, and Patrick is driven. The next Tashi is entirely focused on tennis, Art is willing to bend the rules of right and wrong to get what he wants, and Patrick is left in their wake. You can never truly root for one person before the tables are turned, but despite it all, the tension between them always leaves you wanting more.

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While the movie has a number of tennis matches (which means an endless amount of tennis grunts), the most impactful moments for me are the quiet ones. We know Art and Patrick are in love with Tashi, but we're never quite sure what Tashi thinks about herself.

The Spider-Man actress brings a nuance to the character we haven't seen from her before, and there's a cautious tenderness to the moments where Tashi's back is facing another character, or where she's standing alone. You can almost see the gears turning in her head. "Almost" is the most important word because Challengers is full of "almosts": Tashi almost apologizes, Art almost chooses himself over everyone.

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Challengers is full of open-ended emotions that serve as an exploration of human nature in all its complicated, manipulative, dreamy glory. It's a movie about passion and love and desire — and it's one that leaves you wondering who, or what, the object of that desire is.

Let us know your thoughts on Zendaya's Challengers on Facebook. Check out the rest of our Spring Movie Preview and the Most-Anticipated 2024 Movies!

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Sophia Bush Shared How She And Ashlyn Harris Actually Fell In Love

Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris caused quite a stir at Elton John's Oscars afterparty, but for good reason! After dodging dating rumors for quite awhile, they dressed to impress and made their first public debut as a couple! Sophia even wore her best accessory — a mega-watt smile — that further confirms this blissful pair.

While some people love to know whencelebrity couples fell in love, the details about Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris' relationship have people wondering when this couple actually got together. Well, our wait is over because Sophia decided to open about what led to her romance with Ashlyn Harris and why certain rumors hold no merit!

Since we're clearly tuned in to this love story, here's everything you need to know about Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris's relationship!

Who is Sophia Bush?

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Sophia Bush has had a lengthy career as an actress, and she's most recognized for her portrayal of Brooke Davis in the hit TV series One Tree Hill. She's also appeared in Nip/Tuck, Chicago Fire, Incredibles 2, and John Tucker Must Die. When she's not showing off her acting chops, she hosts the Drama Queens podcast alongside former One Tree Hill castmates Hilarie Burton and Bethany Joy Lenz!

Who is Ashlyn Harris?

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Ashlyn Harris is a former U.S. soccer player who had a successful run — no pun intended — as a goalkeeper during the career. She also won the 2015 FIFA Women's World Cup in Canada and continued making an impressionable mark. However, she announced her retirementin 2022 and — per her Instagrampage — has gone on to become the Global Creative Advisor for Gotham FC and Adidas Football.

When did the dating rumors about Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris start?

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June 2023

Rumors about a possible connection between Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris swirled last summer when Cosmopolitanreported they were on a panel at Cannes Lion International Festival of Creativity. Sophia shared a pic of the two at the festival on Instagramand wrote, "Love you @ashlynharris24 and @sophieannkelly" towards the end of her caption.

A source told Page Six, "It’s very new...They are definitely a couple.” But, Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris didn't confirm or deny anything at that time.

When did Sophia Bush file for divorce from Grant Hughes?

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August 2023

A couple of months after Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris were seen getting cozy together, Sophia filed for divorce from her former husband Grant Hughes. Peopleshared that they were only married for a little over a year — 13 months — but didn't end on a bad terms. A source then told Entertainment Tonight, "Grant and Sophia are better off as friends and they weren’t getting enough time with each other before their breakup."

When did Ashlyn Harris and Ali Krieger file for divorce?

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October 2023

While things seemed to quiet down, Ashlyn Harris soon filed for divorce from Ali Krieger after getting married towards the end of 2019. What's interesting is that a source told Peoplethis decision wasn't surprising. "Although it’s new information to the public, Ashlyn and Ali’s divorce began months ago and they have been living apart since the summer,” the source said.

This is also around the time it was speculated Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris had their first official date. A rep told People, "Grant will always want the best for Sophia, and is supportive of all that makes her happy and fulfilled." We guess it helps he and Sophia had a solid friendship before getting married!

As for Ali Krieger, she basically let the world know things were business as usual with an Instagrampost. She captioned a pic of her playing soccer with, "Preparing for playoffs while in my Beyoncé lemonade era." A comment from user @lgbtlfg said, "the fact that a lot of players in these comment’s usually mind their business and stay out of drama but are supporting ali should tell everyone all they need to know."

The only thing Ashlyn said about it on Instagramis that she never intended for her and Ali's divorce to be made a public matter. A portion of her note says, "This process is never easy, but we were making our way through."

Have Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris publicly talked about their relationship?

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March 2024

Besides showing up to Elton John's Oscars afterparty together, Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris were previously tight-lipped about their relationship. The only hint Sophia offered was much more of a reflective post about 2023 on Instagramat the beginning of January. She said, "This year taught me to listen to myself and no one else. To let go of expectation that wounds and grasp possibility that frees. To not care about optics and instead invest in honesty."

But, she's since chosen to own where she is in life.

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Sophia Bush has now reached a point where she's publicly ready to stand in her truth regarding her life and her relationship status so much that she penned her own cover story for Glamour. The first thing she did was open up about how she really felt about her marriage and fertility struggles.

She wrote, "But after the wedding I found myself in the depths and heartbreak of the fertility process, which was the most clarifying experience of my life. It feels like society is finally making space for brutally honest conversations about how hard and painful any fertility journey is, but I kept mine private. I was trying to get through months of endless ultrasounds, hormone shots, so many blood draws that I have scar tissue in my veins, and retrieval after retrieval, while simultaneously realizing the person I had chosen to be my partner didn’t necessarily speak the same emotional language I did.”

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As far as her relationship with Ashlyn Harris is concerned, the star is enjoying the love that exists between them. Contrary to alleged rumors, their initial relationship was a platonic one that stemmed from a place of understanding and support.

She told Glamour,“I didn’t expect to find love in this support system. I don’t know how else to say it other than: I didn’t see it until I saw it. And I think it’s very easy not to see something that’s been in front of your face for a long time when you’d never looked at it as an option and you had never been looked at as an option. What I saw was a friend with her big, happy life. And now I know she thought the same thing about me.”

She also added, "A lot of effort was made to be graceful with other people’s processing, their time and obligations, and their feelings. What felt like seconds after I started to see what was in front of me, the online rumor mill began to spit in the ugliest ways. There were blatant lies. Violent threats. There were the accusations of being a home-wrecker. The ones who said I’d left my ex because I suddenly realized I wanted to be with women—my partners have known what I’m into for as long as I have (so that’s not it, y’all, sorry!).”

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It's safe to say that Sophia Bush is thoroughly comfortable with her love life and identity as a queer woman. She said, "I’ve experienced so much safety, respect, and love in the queer community, as an ally all of my life, that, as I came into myself, I already felt it was my home. I think I’ve always known that my sexuality exists on a spectrum. Right now I think the word that best defines it is queer. I can’t say it without smiling, actually. And that feels pretty great.”

And this is what it looks like to reclaim your narrative when so many people are looking at a brief glimpse of the lives of celebrities. We love that Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris are loving each other on their terms without feeling pressured to share anything before they were ready to. Our hope is that their love story continues to unfold beautifully.

Be sure to watch Sophia Bush's interview with Glamour's Editor-in-Chief Samantha Barry here!

Full Credits From Glamour Magazine:

Writer: Sophia Bush

Photographer: Lauren Dukoff

Stylist: Deborah Afshani

Hair: Matthew Collins

Makeup: Afton Williams

Manicure: Brittney Boyce

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